Learn To Love Yourself
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“Love begins at home, with loving yourself.” -Margo Anand
Loving yourself, doesn’t mean indulging yourself in frequent solitary sexual activity or other indulgences. It means to learn to trust yourself and listen to your inner self. To trust your inner guidance that is your heart. After all, if you don’t trust the messages from your heart, then how can you trust the heart of another?
Love from another won’t make you feel whole if you feel empty inside. You will just find reasons why the person who offers you their heart, is lying or trying to deceive you. If you haven’t learned to receive love from your higher source and instead depend on others, you end up feeling possessive and jealous.
One way to open your heart to higher love that I discovered was through the magic of tantric sex. I’m a white tiger tantra practitioner and through years of practice, I have learned to cultivate and direct the subtle energy that is within me to heal my mind body and spirit. Had I not learned white tiger tantra, I would have maybe been intellectually aware of these forces within and without, but never would have I been able to feel them, nor learn to love fully.
I often say that young children naturally love themselves. They are uninhibited, guilt-free and fully accepting of who they are. It is only as they grow older that they start to develop a “personality” based on the approval or disapproval of those around them. Most people continue through life, layering on the thick, protective shield that is their ego, until they develop dis-ease of the body and mind, inevitably resulting in their death. Having forgotten how to experience bliss, the quality of their lives is greatly compromised.
As Jesus said, “Allow little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.” This powerful verse has a deep meaning for me as it symbolizes our spiritual growth as adults, in which we shed our “personalities” and ego, becoming free and spontaneous like children. That is our spiritual path and the path to our highest love.
But how do you find this spontaneity? How do you become free and learn to love? There are several ways and many techniques that I share on this about meditation, cultivating sexual energy and white tiger tantra, all of which can help you develop a greater love for yourself and others.
You may wonder, how can meditation teach me to love myself? It does so by providing clarity of mind, which can help you process your thoughts and perceptions that prevent you from experiencing your sensual self fully. As your mind begins to settle, you begin to attune to your feelings and expand your ability to experience pleasure and love.
As the mind settles, through meditation or trance, you can begin to implement tantric techniques that can further help you learn to love yourself. If you have forgotten how to love yourself or have consciously shut down your heart because of heartache, then you are denying yourself the divine right to experience a higher quality of life. Tantra can help release those resistances from your heart and open you up to loving yourself and others, more deeply and more courageously than ever before.
Healing Breathing For Relaxation & Energy
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Some people ask me, how do you meditate and I say, I practice breathing…BREATHING? Really? What is there to practice? We all do it naturally and it’s not like something that needs to be done consciously. It gets taken care of without us thinking. Well, that might be true to an extent, but there are a few things you won’t know about how you breathe until you begin to pay attention…
Place your hand on your lower abdomen and breathe the way you do normally. Does your hand rise up when you breathe? If it doesn’t much, then your breath is shallow and you have a tendency to breathe in your upper chest rather than your lower belly.
This can cause a number of problems. Shallow breathers tend to be more prone to…
- Anxiety
- Depression
- Stress
- Sexual Dysfunctions
- Disease
According to yogic traditions, the breath is your prana or life force energy. If this prana doesn’t flow freely through the entire body, oxygenating the organs, cells and muscles, this may lead to dis-ease in the body and mind.
Here’s a simple technique that I learned through my White Tiger Tantra trainer. I practice daily, for 20 minutes in the morning and 20 minutes at night.
There are two techniques. One is for Relaxation and the other is for Energizing the body and mind.
HEALING BREATHING FOR RELAXATION
1. Place your hand on your lower abdomen.
2. Inhale slowly and deeply to the count of 3, or until your hand begins to rise.
3. Exhale slowly as through you have a small straw in your mouth to the rhythmic count of 6.
HEALING BREATHING FOR ENERGY
1. Place your hand on your lower abdomen.
2. Inhale slowly and deeply to the count of 6, or until your hand begins to rise.
3. Exhale slowly to the rhythmic count of 3.
These powerful breathing techniques, although they are simple, will radically transform how you feel and experience the world around you. You will find that your breathing naturally attunes to this rhythm the more you practice, balancing your mental and physical health as well as creating harmony in your relationship with yourself and others.
Healing Genital Armoring With White Tiger Tantra
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Sometimes, I will look at people and notice a deep sexual frustration in them, especially in women. There is a lack of sensuality, fluidity and flow in their movements. Their eyes are often dim and distant. They have an “impenetrable” aura around them, as if it has been put there to ward off emotional intruders. All of these are signals to me that this person isn’t reaching their fullest orgasmic potential. It’s what Wilhelm Reich referred to as “Body Armoring” or “genital armoring”.
According to Steve P. of White Tiger Tantra, genital armoring is caused by past traumatic and highly emotionally charged experiences becoming lodged inside the body’s tissues. Our bodies, the muscles, the cells and organs are like data collectors, which store information.The kind of information we store and how we process that information will determine the quality of our physical, emotional, spiritual and sexual health.
In “The Art Of Sexual Ecstasy” by Margo Anand, “The male and female sex organs are as prone to armoring as the rest of the body and can function at a reduced level of sensitivity. In fact because the sexual organs have been subjected to vigorous condemnation from childhood onward, the genital area has become a major storehouse of negative imprints, greatly reducing our capacity for sexual pleasure and preventing full enjoyment of orgasmic release.”
Most women aren’t even aware that they have genital armoring, because they do have orgasms occasionally (some more than others). I considered myself blessed that compared to many of my anorgasmic friends, I could at least have clitoral orgasms. But something always felt like it was missing. I felt incomplete, empty and often unsatisfied after sex and I didn’t know why.
After being initiated into white tiger tantra, I discovered that my ability to have full body orgasms and experience bliss depends on releasing the resistance that disallows orgasms from naturally flowing through.
For those of you who don’t know, White Tiger Tantra is a massage system that uses accupressure points to help release the tension in the muscles and tissues, that block the free flow of sexual energy. In other words, White Tiger Tantra heals genital armoring. The massage can sometimes get uncomfortable, depending on how much tension and resistance you have built up towards sex. This could be caused by a number of things…
- Guilty masturbation
- Forceful male fingering
- Sexual intercourse without sufficient foreplay
- Rape and molestation
- Failing to reach orgasm
- Abortions
- Hysterectomy
- Etc.
Although genital armoring limits the ability to experience sexual/sensual pleasure in both men and women, it can be healed through full body massage and massage of the genital area. With White Tiger Tantra, a lot of women go through pretty intense cathartic experiences when they are releasing their “genital armor” so it’s really important to practice with someone they really love and trust. Their partner may have to hold them and let them cry or release whatever emotions surface. It sounds a bit dramatic, but it’s truly one of the most liberating feelings in the world when you can let go of your emotional baggage in a big way..A small price to pay when the rewards are powerful full body orgasms and sensual bliss.
Inspiration
By · CommentsWell, it’s been a while since I wrote my last post. I won’t make excuses about being busy and what not. Nobody really cares! Lol!
I think I started this blog as something that I hoped would HELP PEOPLE, but then I realized there was no need to write posts in a way that would reach other people, but rather it was more important to write about things that INSPIRE ME. And through my INSPIRATION, those who would find my information valuable would naturally be attracted to me.
So, if you are visiting my blog and you want to sift through what rings true for you, be my guest. And if you want to leave comments about stuff I wrote years or even months ago, which may or may not be where I’m at right now, but it’s where you are, feel free too. Sometimes I amaze myself how quickly I can make changes in my life and how quickly my change is reflected back to me in the experiences I attract…:)
It’s funny, but when I read some of the stuff I wrote before I have the urge to delete it, but then I think…that WAS me and I’m constantly evolving. But it’s so nice to be reminded of where I’ve been, how it has brought me to where I am now and where I’m going…
I’m looking forward to my future. I’m looking forward to change, now…whereas before I shied away from it. I’m looking forward to making a big change in my career. For those of you who don’t know, I’m going to be an RN and have been doing a lot of studying lately to get to where I want to be. I’ve put this blog on hold for a while, but it’s nice to come around sometimes to say hello.
So hello everyone and you’ll hear from me soon…when I get that inspiration flowing.
W.A.
P.S. I found INSPIRATION in this Abraham Hicks video. Enjoy!
Relationship Responsibility
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One day, a man sought the advice of a wise sage. “What is the matter?”, asked the sage. “Please help me.” said the man. “I can’t seem to stop looking at beautiful women! Whenever I see a beautiful woman, I can’t help admiring them and it upsets my wife when she ‘catches’ me. How can I stop this behavior so I don’t hurt her feelings?” The sage thought for a moment and replied,
“Do you want to be able to train your eyes in a way that allows you to catch glimpses of beautiful women, without your wife noticing?”
“No, I guess not. That would be absurd”, chuckled the man.
“When you see a a beautiful flower, do you feel bad admiring it in front of your wife?”
“No. Of course not”, said the man.
“Then you know, it can uplift the both of you!” said the sage.“Admire beautiful women freely and joyfully wherever you go. And if you’re wife doesn’t like it, feel good anyway, because that just means she has her own work to do.”
I think most women have encountered some form of jealousy or envy in their lives, with friends or lovers. In situations like this one, it could go two ways. I could tell myself, “I’m not pretty enough. He doesn’t desire me anymore. I’m going to just sit her and sulk until he feels bad enough and stops that behavior. Only then will i feel better.”
Or I could deliberately choose better feeling thoughts. “That woman is beautiful. I can see how he would find her attractive. I find her attractive too. His desire for her does not compromise his desire for me. I’m attractive too. My husband loves variety. It feels good to me seeing my husband light up. It must feel as good to her being admired by my husband, as it does to me, when he admires me. I remember the times he looked at me, the way he’s looking at her” etc.
And that’s what taking relationship responsibility means to me.
Let me illustrate this another way.
I was raised to believe that children must honor and respect their parents. I’ve always had a hard time with “shoulds”. They feel restrictive and to me, they come from a sense of “obligation” rather than inspiration. So, how can you “honor” and “respect” someone when what they are expressing to you is a lack of “self-respect”? After all, if a person knows their true value, they would never feel the need to ask anyone else to justify it for them.
This woman didn’t know her own value, nor did she understand that it wasn’t her husband’s responsibility to make her feel good about herself. In the same way, her husband didn’t understand that sacrificing his own pleasure meant that he was holding himself responsible for his wife’s happiness. But how can a person teach another about happiness, if they themselves aren’t an example of it?
The trouble with many relationships arises when one or both parties try to appease the other, rather then teach them about empowering themselves. This dynamic happens in all kinds of relationships, whether it is intimate, parent-child, employee-boss, friends etc. Somewhere, someone is leaning into someone else for support. But relationships are fickle and when one person decides to step out of the way, we run the risk of tumbling over and then we will be crying out to others to pick us up and kiss our bruises. As children, we learned this. As adults, it’s about time we dusted ourselves off, stood on our own two feet and took responsibility for our own well-being.
And that just means we have to first learn to let go of trying to control another person’s actions, thoughts and emotions. Let go of trying to mold and shape ourselves into the vision of another, if it wasn’t our vision to begin with. Let go of seeking approval from others. Let go of placating others into well-being. Take care of our own well-being, by focusing on thoughts that bring us more joy. But most importantly, we could remind ourselves that every situation, no matter how hopeless can give us the opportunity to find our bliss.
“When you follow your bliss, doors will open where you would not have thought there would be doors, and where there wouldn’t be a door for anyone else.”- Joseph Campbell
The Giver Should Be Grateful
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While Seisetsu was the master of Engaku in Kamakura he required larger quarters, since those in which he was teaching were overcrowded. Umezu Seibei, a merchant of Edo, decided to donate five hundred pieces of gold called ryo toward the construction of a more commodious school. This money he brought to the teacher.
Seisetsu said: “All right. I will take it.”
Umezu gave Seisetsu the sack of gold, but he was dissatisfied with the attitude of the teacher. One might live a whole year on three ryo, and the merchant had not even been thanked for five hundred.
“In that sack are five hundred ryo,” hinted Umezu.
“You told me that before,” replied Seisetsu.
“Even if I am a wealthy merchant, five hundred ryo is a lot of money,” said Umezu.
“Do you want me to thank you for it?” asked Seisetsu.
“You ought to,” replied Uzemu.
Why should I?” inquired Seisetsu. “The giver should be thankful.”
Female Orgasm Is Vital (Video)
By · Comments“We have a pleasure deficit disorder in this country. And I don’t think that it’s medical. I think it’s a cultural issue.” -Nicole Daedone
For more information on how you can learn to achieve powerful female orgasms visit http://sensualawakening.com
How To Have Multiple Orgasms In Multiple Ways…
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Steve P, master of White Tiger Tantra offers a different and unique perspective on the female orgasm. He believes that ALL women, without exception are born with the ability to have multiple orgasms. The problem is, they never learned how to.
So let me reveal some secrets to you that I learned from my White Tiger Tantra trainer on…
How To Have Multiple Orgasms:
1. Trust: If you know about the mind-body connection then you are probably already aware that what you think translates into a physical response. When you think about a memorable lovemaking experience, did it not leave an imprint in your body so that just the mere thought of it stirs up those ecstatic feelings in you once again? Did that experience leave you with the belief that your body has the ability to feel pleasure and bliss? Most likely it did. But suppose you don’t have the experience of having multiple orgasms. In fact, you don’t know anybody who ever has. So, then does it come down to “I have to see it/feel it to believe it”? Not really, but to have multiple orgasms, you have to be open and trusting enough of yourself to allow the new experience to come through.
2. Orgasm Control: You would think that having multiple orgasms, means more orgasms right? Not quite so. It’s quite the reverse really. When you masturbate and let yourself come, you are releasing the hormone prolactin, which is what makes us roll over and fall asleep after sex. It’s what makes us want to vegetate on the couch with munchies and movies on a Friday night, rather than mingle and go out to meet people. Also, you’ll hear a lot of tantric practitioners talk about developing sexual control because it’s believed that when you have an orgasm, sexual energy is lost or dissipated. This doesn’t mean abstaining from sex. On the contrary, it means, have sex or masturbate, but raise your sexual energy by cycling it through your entire body, rather than seeking instant gratification through orgasms.
3. Be Vibrator Free: One of the problems with our modern society, is that our constant need for stimulation causes us to gradually grow numb to it. Then we need more and more stimulation in order for it to have any effect. So if you’re a woman who is used to using vibrators, you might notice that the longer you use them, the longer it takes you to reach orgasm. I was one of them. At first, they were great. They could get me off in seconds, but gradually seconds became minutes, minutes became hours and eventually I just threw mine away. I’m not suggesting that you do the same. I will tell you that if you do put your vibrator away and just let your body regain it’s natural sensitivity to human touch, especially with exercises like “Awakening The Female Sensual Grid”, you will be amazed how orgasmic you can become. Moreover, you might discover that your orgasms aren’t limited to your genitals, but that your entire body is multi-orgasmic.
4. Raise Sexual Energy: Rather than letting your sexual energy dissipate through orgasm, raise your sexual energy…over…and over…and over again. And it doesn’t mean spend the entire day in bed playing with yourself. Raising sexual energy can take anywhere from 5-10 minutes. Think of it is a sexual meditation. For starters, I would say practice bringing yourself to the point of orgasm and not releasing, twice a day for 3 consecutive days. On the third day, allow yourself to come and notice to what point the sensations have amplified and how much more intense your orgasms become. Be sure to follow the steps in Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy because it will teach you how to draw sexual energy into your heart and through your entire body.
5. White Tiger Tantra: Just as Michelangelo chipped away at his marble, taking away what was not necessary to find his “David”, White Tiger Tantra will peel away the layers of trapped negative emotions in our bodies, to uncover our fullest orgasmic potential. I personally don’t know of any other systems that can more rapidly take any woman who says, “I’ve never had an orgasm” and teach her how to have full body, toe-curling multiple orgasms. And, like me I discovered along the way in my training, that White Tiger Tantra brings much more to women than sexual pleasure. To me, it brought joy where there was anger. Peace where there was stress and balance to where there was disharmony. That is the healing potential of sexual energy and I think as a society with it’s diseases of the body, mind and spirit we are in an urgent need for this kind of healing. A healing that can only come when we re-train our bodies and minds to feel blissful and orgasmic once again.
Sex Without Stress
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An exciting new sex study reveals striking differences between the way men and women have sex. Brain scans show that while men rely more heavily on physical stimulation for sexual pleasure, a woman’s sexual arousal depends on…
DEEP RELAXATION AND THE LACK OF ANXIETY.
“The key to female arousal seems rather to be deep relaxation and a lack of anxiety, with direct sensory input from the genitals playing a less critical role.
The scans show that during sexual activity, the parts of the female brain responsible for processing fear, anxiety and emotion start to relax and reduce in activity. This reaches a peak at orgasm, when the female brain’s emotion centres are effectively closed down to produce an almost trance-like state.” Full article
Taoist sex practitioners believe that ANY extreme emotional states (whether you are male or female) paired with lovemaking can disrupt the flow of chi or prana. In other words, they say you should avoid sex when you or your partner are feeling angry, anxious, depressed and even joyful!
According to the Huang Ti Nei Ching (The Yellow Emperor’s Classic of Internal Medicine) ”Anger makes chi rise, joy slows it down, grief causes chi to dissipate, fear causes it to descend, surprise makes chi scatter, exhaustion makes it waste away, and thought causes it to concentrate.”
While it’s possible for men and women to enjoy sex when they do feel extremes of emotions, women in particular because they are more emotional by nature, will feel imbalanced if they were not relaxed or at ease prior to lovemaking.
Sex paired with stress and adrenaline can actually diminish a woman’s sexual response. She may still be able to have an orgasm, but her orgasm will likely be localized in her genitals only, rather than her entire body.
Full body orgasms, according to the principles of White Tiger Tantra are dependent on a woman’s total surrender and the relaxation of her body, mind and spirit. My tantric teacher always said that when a woman tries to “control” her partner, she is coming from a place of adrenaline and stress (the sympathetic nervous system).
When she lets go of control and relaxes she enters into the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for “stimulation of ‘rest-and-digest’ activities that occur when the body is at rest, including sexual arousal”. Her body then begins to release endorphins such as serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin which give her a a feeling of pleasure and euphoria.
While many studies talk about how sex can relieve stress by releasing endorphins in our bodies and increase intimacy in a relationship, it can actually have the opposite effect and prevent us from being “in the mood”.
A few words of advice…
“Be sure to warm the kettle before you do your cooking.” -Steve P, White Tiger Tantra
**If you are ready to take your lover beyond the normal sexual experiences and help her release new heights of sensual ecstasy, learn these powerful tantric sex techniques to help enhance the love and passion in your relationships. Visit http://sensualawakening.com
The Magic Of Tantric Sex
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The interplay and balance between Shiva & Shakti or the yin and the yang, which are the male and female aspects of our personalities are at the center of tantra and tantric sex practices. The lovemaking between the these two polar and complementary opposites are believed to have resulted in the birth of our universe and all it’s living things.
In tantra, the dance between negative and positive, dark and light or the attraction between male and female energy are that which generate new life. It is this blending of opposites that brings the unification of our spirit and body, leading to a state where we are no longer worried about thoughts of the future or haunted by thoughts of the past. Rather, we can live in the “now” or present moment.
To attain this state through tantra or tantric sex, requires that we learn the art of cultivating sexual energy which is typically practiced by channeling it up our spine and back down again through our breathing, while visualizing ourselves ascending through higher states of consciousness. There are many techniques to achieve the desired effect, such as I share with you in Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy.
I’ve had the good fortune to work intensely for several years with a tantric teacher who trained me in White Tiger Tantra, a unique sensual enhancement and sexually healing massage for women. During my sessions I would have some incredible visions which through time, had opened me up to astral travel, bestowed knowledge to me of my past lives and awakened psychic abilities in me, I never knew I had.
As time went on, I began to receive very special information, a wisdom that came only when I started learning to let go of “control” and enter into the state of “now” or what the Taoists refer to as the “japa”. What to do with this knowledge or wisdom is really unique to each tantric practitioner. Some people choose to cultivate sexual energy to attract things of an earthly nature, such as money, fame and success. Others draw this energy up to ascend on the spiritual plane or to discover their higher self so that it can be shared with others…or kept to themselves.
In my opinion, it really doesn’t matter what kind of tantra you practice or what you do with the energy and wisdom you acquire from it, as long as you aren’t using your magic to intentionally do harm unto others…
**If you are ready to take your lover beyond the normal sexual experiences and help her release new heights of sensual ecstasy, learn these powerful tantric sex techniques to help enhance the love and passion in your relationships. Visit http://sensualawakening.com
