Archive for February, 2010
Are you looking for the “perfect” mate? He or she may not be what you expected…
Setting aside all physical appearances, doesn’t it all come down to how you FEEL when you are with that special someone?
In matters of love, we need not only keep an open-heart, but an open-mind as well.
Your thoughts? experiences?
In my view, we only really understand what “being in love” is, because we spend most of our time out of love.
Someone comes along and momentarily pulls us out of our rut and suddenly we think we’ve found “the one”…
We seek experiences and people that will make us feel like we are at the top of the world, before we come tumbling down, only to start the ascent all over again.
We thrive on emotional highs and lows. They don’t call us “the instant gratification generation” for no reason.
It seems like everywhere I go, there is excess or lack of some kind. I predict that excessive indulgences in food, drugs, sex and entertainment will eventually run their course, before people begin to look for higher alternatives, to tame their inner restlessness. On the other extreme, fear-mongering religious institutions, thirsting for power attempt to control the expression of our natures. But maybe it takes living one extreme or the other, to help find our balance.
Practicing tantra over the years has taught me that we can live in a state of love of the highest kind, without needing assistance of any outside sources. When I first began to experience this state of unconditional love, I began to extend my love to other people in ways that didn’t allow me to impose on them. I was no longer “needing” their company to fill a void. Being alone became a joyful experience, quite separate from the despair and emptiness of loneliness.
With this realization comes a child-like simplicity that knows no boundaries. Life quits being such a struggle when you live at the peak of your existence.
It’s almost Valentine’s Day. No, this is not another consoling article, offering valentine’s day survival tips for lonely single people in need of some good lovin’, while their coupled friends are being lavishly pampered with massages, candles, decadent deserts and ecstatic lovemaking…
So let me keep this brief and share a little quote for those alone/together, that I found very appropriate for the occasion:
“The capacity to love, is the capacity to be alone…The solo flute player, knows how to enjoy his flute alone. And if he goes and finds a solo tabla player, they both will enjoy being together and to create harmony between the flute and the tabla.”- Osho
My only advice this Valentine’s day?
Play Your Heart Out!!
Someone recently asked me, “What do you want to do in the next 5 years?”
I answered, “I want to do whatever feels right.” I used to answer in the same way when my family would probe me about my career plans. My folks always got a little uncomfortable with my ambiguous replies, but I always told them that there is no certainty in an uncertain world.
The current of life will carry us regardless of whether or not we try to swim against it. I don’t know where this current is going or why it’s carrying me. All I know is that I want to live totally spontaneously…letting go completely.
We are so conditioned to follow a certain set of beliefs and ideas that often don’t coincide with our natures. Yet, we continue to bend ourselves and mold ourselves into the status quo, while our bodies violently protest by developing all kinds of illness and dis-ease.
That’s why meditation has become such a powerful part of my daily life. I am constantly working on purifying my energy and emptying my mind of all extraneous thoughts, because when the inner dialogue goes silent, our senses sharpen. Only then do we begin hearing those messages that can lead us to our highest purpose.
My senses and feelings are my personal thermometers. They guide my life. I’ve discovered that when my mind is filled with random thoughts, old habits and beliefs, my attention to what is truly important is compromised. My intuition becomes less accurate and I’m more likely to stumble.
By learning to silence my mind through deep meditation, I’ve discovered a powerful connectedness to my higher self or God. When I feel that connection, I know that no matter where I’m going or what I’m doing, I’m right where I’m supposed to be…
I recently picked up a book called Orgone, Reich and Eros by W. Edward Mann. As I was flipping through the pages, I stumbled upon some very interesting information pertaining to orgasmic energy in the body and how this energy can become stifled, particularly in women, through something called “genital armoring”. Here’s what Dr. Reich found…
Dr. Wilhelm Reich believed that when young children are reared to exercise “self-control” over their natural urges out of fear of being punished, they develop neuromuscular tensions in the body called “Body Armoring.” Think about it, when you tense a muscle, it naturally decreases the flow of blood. You can actually observe this with the naked eye. Just look for stiffness of the jaw, averted eyes, sucked in chest, a tight pelvis and rigid walk. Reich, claimed that every expression of armoring was created to protect the person from external and internal dangers, which caused a decrease of the flow of psychic energy or “orgone”, particularly of a sexual nature. Interesting.
In this day and age, I have found very few therapies that actually focus on releasing emotional issues through working on pressure points in the body. Sure there is acupuncture, massage, rolfing etc. But what about when it comes to the pressure points on the inside and the outside of the genitals? I mean, aside from your local massage parlor and a couple of tantric gurus and goddess-types, there are few really effective therapists out there willing to stick there fingers inside a woman’s vagina to help her release her guilt, frustrations, traumas and anything under the sun that causes her to experience anything than spectacular in the sex department. Besides, some women may feel a little shy about having some stranger touch such intimate places. Here’s where White Tiger Tantra comes in…
“The issues are trapped in the tissues”, claims Steve P, White Tiger Tantra. And that makes it so that every thought, emotion and experience both positive or negative is imprinted in us on a cellular level.
He believes that when the genitals become armored, women may experience a decrease in sensitivity and inability to have orgasms. While sexual exploration is natural to many young children, they soon discover that their sexual urges come with the price of shame and guilt. Sexual abuse, rape, abortions can also contribute to genital armoring.This is why White Tiger Tantra is such a powerful system, because it’s methods are designed to help women and couples heal and reach new heights of sensual ecstasy in the comfort and security of their homes.
For me personally, I’ve tried many things to help relieve stress and break away that heavy armor I had built around to protect myself. I read books on self-development, spirituality, sexuality, talked to friends, attended seminars, tried all kinds of tantric techniques, on my own or with my partner, but none had given me more dramatically effective results than White Tiger Tantra. And it’s actually white tiger tantra that inspired me to start this blog. I feel that more women and couples out there need to know that no matter how bad of a situation they think they are in, there are solutions. It’s just a question of looking in the right places.
I’ll warn you ahead of time…His views are VERY controversial.
However, I cannot help but agree with a lot of points that he makes and I’ll be sure to elaborate on this in future posts. In the meantime, I’d love to hear your opinions!