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Tantric Sex Technique #2: The Power Of Tantric Breathing
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“The single most important key to sex that I’ve yet discovered is conscious rhythmic breathing; the more you breathe the more you feel and the more you come alive. Many of us breathe only enough to survive but not to live fully. Deep breathing is a door to waking up to healing and to more personal freedom.”
— Annie Sprinkle, PhD. and Tantrica
What is tantric breathing and how can it help my sex life?
You don’t have to be a tantric master, guru or yogi to understand the power of deep abdominal breathing or tantric breath in transforming a lukewarm sex life into one that’s sizzling hot…
To begin, it would be helpful to understand the biology behind breathing and it’s relationship with sex. You are probably well aware of how important breathing is a when engaging in strenuous exercise, such as weight lifting or cardiovascular activities. When we draw in oxygen through the nose, we release what’s known as nitric oxide into our system, which serves to regulate our blood pressure, ward off infections and more importantly, deliver blood to different organs.
The way sex is performed by the vast majority of people, women in particular is that they go through these peaks and valleys…the oohs and ahhs…the huffing and puffing…hyperventilating… And just as they are about to climax…Everything stops. They tense their entire body up from head to toe and STOP BREATHING and if they are lucky, they’ll have a mini-orgasm lasting a few seconds at best…
The truth is, women’s bodies were designed for full body and multiple orgasms according to tantric philosophy. But because women tend to hold off their breath and hyperventilate during sex, their bodies lack in oxygen and their orgasms tend to localized in the genital region rather than the entire body.
Just think about it. The less oxygen you have running through you during sex, the less nitric oxide is produced. The less nitric oxide is produced, the less blood flows into your genitals, decreasing engorgement (in women) and weakening erections (in men).
Here’s where tantric breath with tantric sex can help. You have to start by literally re-training your body for deep abdominal breathing and if you already naturally do, you are way ahead of the game. But because we live in such a fast-paced, high-stress society, it’s no wonder the vast majority of adults have become shallow breathers. The reality is that we weren’t born that way. Just look at babies and you will see that they naturally breathe in their lower abdomen.
Deep abdominal breathing is powerful and there are many techniques to do it. I like to practice a form a rhythmic breathing which entails, placing your hand over your navel, inhaling slowly and fully to the count of 4 and exhaling at the same rhythm. It sounds easier than it actually is. What most people will notice is that their breath stops short of their diaphragm. Just relax and don’t force your breath into your abdomen. As you grow more accustomed to breathing in this way, you will begin to open up channels, allowing the energy to reach your lower belly.
Another technique is to inhale deeply into your abdomen, focusing on a point 2 inches below the navel and as you exhale focus on the crown at the top of your head. You can intensify the exercise by exhaling with a loud guttural sigh. Consciously breathing in this way during sex, is especially important for women who sometimes have difficult reaching orgasm and often suffer from a variety of sexual disorders.
On a final note, once you’ve practiced these exercises so that they become second nature to you, you can then begin to incorporate them into your lovemaking to boost sexual energy between you and your lover, prolong intercourse and just bring you to new heights of sensual ecstasy…Naturally.
If you’ve missed part 1 of my tantric sex series, read Tantric Sex Technique #1: Eye Gazing, followed by Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy.
**If you are ready to take your lover beyond the normal sexual experiences and help her release new heights of sensual ecstasy, learn these powerful tantric sex techniques to help enhance the love and passion in your relationships. Visit http://sensualawakening.com
Tantric Sex Technique #1 : Eye-Gazing
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If you’re new to tantric sex and don’t really know where to begin, the following Tantric Sex Technique will add a whole new dimension to your lovemaking.
Tantric Sex Technique #1: Eye-Gazing
People need to connect intimately to have great sex. Whether you have been in a relationship for many years and feel like you’ve lost some of that intimacy you once shared or you’re in a new relationship and want to take it to the next level, eye-gazing will allow you to instantly connect heart-to-heart, soul-to-soul.
To practice Eye-Gazing or Soul-Gazing, stand and face your partner. Place your left hand over your lover’s right hand and your right over their left. Begin to breathe in synchrony with one another. On the inhale, slowly and with unconscious movement, allow your hands to gently rise…then descend as you exhale.
Softly gaze into your lover’s left eye, as he or she gazes into yours. In the Celtic tradition, it is said that the left-eye is the gateway to soul, that connect us with our “Anam Kara” or “friend of the soul”. Sometimes, when eye-gazing people may notice their partner’s face changing into that of an older or younger person. Sometimes an animal will appear. Embrace whatever you see, free of any judgment. Send unconditional love, imagining a white or pink light enveloping your lover. Many people believe that the eyes can reveal information about our past-lives. Whatever your beliefs are, enjoy this special time with your parnter as you connect…two souls into one.
You can also practice soul-gazing during sex. The best sex position to practice this tantric technique is in the Yab Yum position. This is a common tantric sex position, where couples face each other, with the woman sitting on the man’s lap. This allows for better movement of sexual energy and connects the chakras between partners.
While many people enjoy the feeling of being connected to their lover, after sex, it’s important to eventually take back your energy cords. In other words, you want to be running your energy and not someone else’s, unless of course you just want to spend the day basking in sensual ecstasy…
I like to keep my heart chakra connected to my lover throughout the day, because we can send each other energy at a distance, but for the most part, if you’re practicing an exercise as intense as soul-gazing, you will feel more like “yourself” if you take back your cords and send your partner’s their own. You can always reconnect at a later time.
So, to conclude the soul-gazing session, whether you practice it before or after sex, close your eyes and place your right hand over your heart, with your left hand on top. Inhale deeply into the stomach, focusing on a spot, 2 inches below the navel. On the exhale, focus on your crown chakra, at the top of your head.
On the fourth exhale, gently open your eyes, look at your partner and notice how the connection has changed. Thank your partner for opening up their heart and soul to you.
Continue on to…
Tantric Sex Technique #2: The Power Of Tantric Breathing
Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy
**If you are ready to take your lover beyond the normal sexual experiences and help her release new heights of sensual ecstasy, learn these powerful tantric sex techniques to help enhance the love and passion in your relationships. Visit http://sensualawakening.com
