Archive for Healing
Some people ask me, how do you meditate and I say, I practice breathing…BREATHING? Really? What is there to practice? We all do it naturally and it’s not like something that needs to be done consciously. It gets taken care of without us thinking. Well, that might be true to an extent, but there are a few things you won’t know about how you breathe until you begin to pay attention…
Place your hand on your lower abdomen and breathe the way you do normally. Does your hand rise up when you breathe? If it doesn’t much, then your breath is shallow and you have a tendency to breathe in your upper chest rather than your lower belly.
This can cause a number of problems. Shallow breathers tend to be more prone to…
- Sexual Dysfunctions
According to yogic traditions, the breath is your prana or life force energy. If this prana doesn’t flow freely through the entire body, oxygenating the organs, cells and muscles, this may lead to dis-ease in the body and mind.
Here’s a simple technique that I learned through my White Tiger Tantra trainer. I practice daily, for 20 minutes in the morning and 20 minutes at night.
There are two techniques. One is for Relaxation and the other is for Energizing the body and mind.
HEALING BREATHING FOR RELAXATION
1. Place your hand on your lower abdomen.
2. Inhale slowly and deeply to the count of 3, or until your hand begins to rise.
3. Exhale slowly as through you have a small straw in your mouth to the rhythmic count of 6.
HEALING BREATHING FOR ENERGY
1. Place your hand on your lower abdomen.
2. Inhale slowly and deeply to the count of 6, or until your hand begins to rise.
3. Exhale slowly to the rhythmic count of 3.
These powerful breathing techniques, although they are simple, will radically transform how you feel and experience the world around you. You will find that your breathing naturally attunes to this rhythm the more you practice, balancing your mental and physical health as well as creating harmony in your relationship with yourself and others.
Sometimes, I will look at people and notice a deep sexual frustration in them, especially in women. There is a lack of sensuality, fluidity and flow in their movements. Their eyes are often dim and distant. They have an “impenetrable” aura around them, as if it has been put there to ward off emotional intruders. All of these are signals to me that this person isn’t reaching their fullest orgasmic potential. It’s what Wilhelm Reich referred to as “Body Armoring” or “genital armoring”.
According to Steve P. of White Tiger Tantra, genital armoring is caused by past traumatic and highly emotionally charged experiences becoming lodged inside the body’s tissues. Our bodies, the muscles, the cells and organs are like data collectors, which store information.The kind of information we store and how we process that information will determine the quality of our physical, emotional, spiritual and sexual health.
In “The Art Of Sexual Ecstasy” by Margo Anand, “The male and female sex organs are as prone to armoring as the rest of the body and can function at a reduced level of sensitivity. In fact because the sexual organs have been subjected to vigorous condemnation from childhood onward, the genital area has become a major storehouse of negative imprints, greatly reducing our capacity for sexual pleasure and preventing full enjoyment of orgasmic release.”
Most women aren’t even aware that they have genital armoring, because they do have orgasms occasionally (some more than others). I considered myself blessed that compared to many of my anorgasmic friends, I could at least have clitoral orgasms. But something always felt like it was missing. I felt incomplete, empty and often unsatisfied after sex and I didn’t know why.
After being initiated into white tiger tantra, I discovered that my ability to have full body orgasms and experience bliss depends on releasing the resistance that disallows orgasms from naturally flowing through.
For those of you who don’t know, White Tiger Tantra is a massage system that uses accupressure points to help release the tension in the muscles and tissues, that block the free flow of sexual energy. In other words, White Tiger Tantra heals genital armoring. The massage can sometimes get uncomfortable, depending on how much tension and resistance you have built up towards sex. This could be caused by a number of things…
- Guilty masturbation
- Forceful male fingering
- Sexual intercourse without sufficient foreplay
- Rape and molestation
- Failing to reach orgasm
Although genital armoring limits the ability to experience sexual/sensual pleasure in both men and women, it can be healed through full body massage and massage of the genital area. With White Tiger Tantra, a lot of women go through pretty intense cathartic experiences when they are releasing their “genital armor” so it’s really important to practice with someone they really love and trust. Their partner may have to hold them and let them cry or release whatever emotions surface. It sounds a bit dramatic, but it’s truly one of the most liberating feelings in the world when you can let go of your emotional baggage in a big way..A small price to pay when the rewards are powerful full body orgasms and sensual bliss.
It was a dark and stormy day today. A perfect day if you’re feeling in the mood for a minor depressive episode, like the one I encountered when I overheard a colleague of mine mumbling somberly for all ears to hear, ” If I were at the edge of a bridge today, I just might…”
“JUMP?!” I joyfully exclaimed. He looked up at me with sad, but curious eyes. I knew it would take a little shock and humor to pull him out of the hole he was in the midst of digging for himself.
I continued gleefully, “Tell me when and where! I’ll meet you there and give you a PUSH, in case you decide to hesitate!!”
The others looked at me with a mix of horror and awe, which was sort of what I was going for. It certainly shattered the gloominess in the air, momentarily. A smile was beginning to form at the corner of Mr. Suicidal’s lips. His eyes grew brighter as he looked at me questioningly.
Now, that I had his attention, I had to make sure to keep him fixated for atleast a few minutes, whilst i did my magic.
“What you need, is a good strong cup of coffee and a piece of chocolate”. I reached over, handing him a piece of my Caramilk bar. This only made him shrug his shoulders and sigh. He was sinking again. “Ok ok, how about some nice chicken soup? Like grandma made?” Nope, he wasn’t going for that either.
“Nevermind then…What you need is a tall blond bombshell with a big rack to make it for you!”
His pupils began to dilate. The excitement was oozing from him like a school boy who had just stumbled upon a dirty magazine for the very first time.“Like Cheryl Ladd?”, he asked hesitatingly and with an undertone of naughtiness.
“Sure! like Cheryl Ladd…” I replied approvingly, wondering about this mystery woman, capable of sparking such a thrilling display of fireworks, in a lonely and brooding middle-aged man. A movie star from the 70s…Before my time.
It didn’t matter. His mood was lifted and my job was done. There was a lightness and electricity in the room that drew others in like moths to a flame. It made him all the more alive and animated. Life became worth living again…
That is, as long as he had a voluptuous blond around to cook him chicken soup, even if she only existed in his mind…
Last night I had the opportunity of having my chart read by an incredible astrologer named Barbara Wenninger. I was blown away at her accuracy and her uncanny ability for doing readings of natal, progressive and relationship charts. She was spot on about so many things in my life, particularly about her intuition of me as a Wounded Healer.
As soon as I heard the term “Wounded Healer”, I knew I could identify with it. Carl Jung described the wounded healer as an archetypal dynamic that develops when a patient’s wounds trigger those of the therapist, especially if they are similar to the patient’s. Jung recognized some of the dangers of being a psychologist, in that working with the emotionally or mentally ill, can leave a therapist vulnerable to being infected with their patient’s wounds or potentially reopen old ones.
This is an all too familiar experience for me when I’m working with clients. Being very sensitive that I am, I readily pick up on people’s energies especially when I’m deeply connected with them, during hypnosis sessions. I do take my precautions however by regularly implementing chakra cleansing and shielding rituals into my daily meditation practices, before and after each session. It is a form of energy hygiene for me, without which it would be difficult to really tune in and be able to assess where people are stuck in their lives.
However, you don’t have to be a psychoanalyst or any kind of therapist for that matter, to experience the wounded healer effect. You can be sitting across from a friend, a client or a family member and suddenly they say something about themselves that triggers an emotional response in you. They did not cause you to respond in that way, they simply cast a light in you, what you may have neatly stored away in the dark recesses of your mind…While most people will try to resist and suppress what has bubbled up to the surface, I take it as an opportunity for growth. If I don’t know where my difficulties lie or what wounds I have been trying to conceal, what chance do I ever have of overcoming them? I want to see the rawness of my wounds, up close and personal, so that I know what I’m working with.
Another thing… Sometimes out of our sheer desire to help another human being, we readily become victims of energy vampires, which is a fascinating sphere I have yet to delve into. Some people can drain your energy by constantly recounting their tales of woe. Others draw energy from you through various forms of approval-seeking behavior such as bragging, asking tons of questions or trying too hard to be nice. People who play victim and seek attention by sulking or crying rob us of our energy, IF and ONLY we have consented to giving it to them.
In many systems of magick, it is believed that what we put out, comes back to us four-fold. It’s one of the first spiritual lessons I learned and one that I’m continuously mindful of implementing in my life.
Through our karmic ties, when transmitting negative thoughts and words about a person or people, we bind our energy to them and it returns to us, multiplying as we continue to entertain negative patterns of thought …That is, until we take the time and the time that we have, to unconsciously heal that part of us that has created them, inside our minds.
Strange concept? It’s quite simple really…
The next time you feel yourself struggling with anger directed towards someone, close your eyes and begin to focus on your breathing. If you find your thoughts going hither and thither, simply allow them to flow as they will without judging, while you remain a neutral observer. Thoughts and emotions have a tendency of settling when we quit resisting or trying to control them.
Once you’ve quieted down…that part of you that was feeling unsettled, imagine in your mind’s eye, standing before you, a person with whom you feel you might be carrying inside you, the burdensome energy of unresolved conflict.
If you’ve harbored a lot of negative emotions towards this individual, you may…start to notice as they rise within you…Allowing any emotions that you feel to float up to the surface is essential to having them cleared and resolved. You may feel some tense areas inside your body. Notice where you feel them. Many people experience a tightening in their solar plexus and heart chakra. There are usually 2 or 3 spots where one will feel it.
Begin to have a conversation in your mind with this individual. This is your chance to really tell them how you feel, allowing them to answer you in whatever way you might imagine. When you feel ready to free yourself of this person’s energy, ask them if it would be alright for the both of you to be healed…Wait for an answer…. If it is “no”, then continue your internal dialogue until you have both agreed to release each other.
Now…Imagine above you is pool of bright blue healing light…As you draw this light through your crown, allow it to fill your entire body…from the top of your head, down to the tips of your toes…spreading everywhere, starting anywhere…moving through every cell and strand of your DNA, until it begins to spill from your heart…like an energy chord or tube, attaching to the other person…filling them with your blue light, until they are also overflowing with healing energy.
When you feel that the both of you are healed, place your right hand over your heart and left hand on top…detaching the energy that bound you to the other person.
Then, slowly, inhale and focus on the belly. Exhale and focus on the top of the head, repeating this breath 4 times. Inhale a 5th time, holding your breath for a few seconds and as you exhale, slowly open your eyes and feel that energy flood into your heart…spreading through your entire body.
Rest your hands and then take a moment to notice the new sensations. You may find a different feeling inside you that wasn’t there before. When noticed, honor it and say “thank you”.
Now…go back and think about that same person that you were in conflict with and notice if the feelings have changed. If you still feel negative emotions towards this person, repeat the process over again. Practicing this exercise many times over, going through ever individual in your life, who may have hurt you or betrayed you in some way, will generate a radiant energy inside that will be multiplied exponentially, each and every time you heal them and yourself.
Then you’ll really know what it feels like to be running your own energy, instead of someone else’s.
People who walk around with unresolved heartbreak or heartache are at a greater risk of heart disease, heart attacks and stroke, according to Dr. Mimi Guarnieri, cardiologist and author of “The Heart Speaks”. She discovered that it made no difference if her patients were in optimal physical condition or not. What she uncovered was a pattern of grief and traumas of the heart, that involved anything from the devastating loss of a child to a betrayal of the heart, in a relationship.
Our emotional responses are learned by our past experiences and based on our set of beliefs that create our realty. Realities are meant to shift. When people live a life of the mundane, they only chose to embrace certain concepts or ideas but as we know, concepts and ideas are like a river or a stream. When you dam it up and stop its flowing motion, it will stagnate and quite often become polluted, transmutating into another form, often that of a veritable physical illness.
Grief and betrayal can literally weigh down on a person’s heart. Energy begins to stagnate around the heart center and begins to draw from the other chakras, creating a disharmony and imbalance in one’s energetic field, as well internal blockages, often leading to dis-ease of the mind, body and spirit.
So remember, no matter what you do with your heartbreak, exquisite sex or great laughter can offer some relief by opening up the parasympathetic nervous system, which increases the flow of endorphins. It’s why we love to be around people who amplify these states naturally in us. So let me share a piece of footage that I hope brings laughter, not only to your belly, but also to your heart, to help resolve any unsettled issues. He’s kind of silly, but I hope you guys enjoy it just the same.
For those who are interested in reading a fantastic book on the chakras, I highly recommend Keith Sherwood’s Chakra Therapy: For Personal Growth & Healing.
It’s a very practical and straightforward book to read for people who want to learn about chakra cleansing, auras and kundalini. He also shares simple step-by-step instructions on how to clear the chakras and other meditations, as a form of healing of energetic blockages and emotional wounds.
I’ve read a lot of books on chakras and I find Keith Sherwood’s Chakra Therapy single-handedly one of the simplest and in depth books about chakras that I’ve ever come across.
This book was actually an inspiration for me to begin to explore subtle energy when I had no prior knowledge of it.
Sometimes, we get so caught up in the hustle of our daily lives that we forget to really stop and pay attention to the things that really matter, like the depth and quality of your breath. Breath that’s filled with vitality and energy is what sustains us not only physically, but also on a spiritual level.
However, many people will discover that their breathing tends to be restricted to their upper chests. Babies on the other hand breathe very naturally and deeply in their lower bellies. They are uninhibited and free of emotional blockages that restrict the life force energy from flowing freely through them.
Breathing deeply and rhythmically in the belly may appear to be an easy task, but it actually takes a conscious effort, particularly if you have never practiced any form of basic meditation. By practicing rhythmic breathing we begin to release built up tensions that prevent the free of life force energy within us.
A simple rhythmic breathing exercise described in Israel Regardie’s book, The art of true healing, consists of inhaling very slowly into the belly for the count of 4, then exhaling at the same rhythm. Regardie explains that the natural processes of the universe around us have an unchanging cyclical rhythm and it is only man that has through self-righteousness, swayed away from his true nature. By tuning into this rhythm through the power of our breath, we can attune ourselves to higher vibrations, increase our own energy and vitality and heal ourselves of various illnesses.
Tantric practitioners also stress the importance of breath, to prolong sexual intercourse and to raise one’s spiritual and sexual energy. Also, learning tantric breathing exercises or meditation encourage the release of endorphins in the body like (serotonin and dopamine) that keep is in a more happy and content state.
There are many techniques that can help increase the depth of your breath. I guess you have to sort of go with whatever methods work for you, whether you practice meditation, yoga or tantra. The result will speak for itself…