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Female Orgasm Is Vital (Video)
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How To Have Multiple Orgasms In Multiple Ways…
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Steve P, master of White Tiger Tantra offers a different and unique perspective on the female orgasm. He believes that ALL women, without exception are born with the ability to have multiple orgasms. The problem is, they never learned how to.
So let me reveal some secrets to you that I learned from my White Tiger Tantra trainer on…
How To Have Multiple Orgasms:
1. Trust: If you know about the mind-body connection then you are probably already aware that what you think translates into a physical response. When you think about a memorable lovemaking experience, did it not leave an imprint in your body so that just the mere thought of it stirs up those ecstatic feelings in you once again? Did that experience leave you with the belief that your body has the ability to feel pleasure and bliss? Most likely it did. But suppose you don’t have the experience of having multiple orgasms. In fact, you don’t know anybody who ever has. So, then does it come down to “I have to see it/feel it to believe it”? Not really, but to have multiple orgasms, you have to be open and trusting enough of yourself to allow the new experience to come through.
2. Orgasm Control: You would think that having multiple orgasms, means more orgasms right? Not quite so. It’s quite the reverse really. When you masturbate and let yourself come, you are releasing the hormone prolactin, which is what makes us roll over and fall asleep after sex. It’s what makes us want to vegetate on the couch with munchies and movies on a Friday night, rather than mingle and go out to meet people. Also, you’ll hear a lot of tantric practitioners talk about developing sexual control because it’s believed that when you have an orgasm, sexual energy is lost or dissipated. This doesn’t mean abstaining from sex. On the contrary, it means, have sex or masturbate, but raise your sexual energy by cycling it through your entire body, rather than seeking instant gratification through orgasms.
3. Be Vibrator Free: One of the problems with our modern society, is that our constant need for stimulation causes us to gradually grow numb to it. Then we need more and more stimulation in order for it to have any effect. So if you’re a woman who is used to using vibrators, you might notice that the longer you use them, the longer it takes you to reach orgasm. I was one of them. At first, they were great. They could get me off in seconds, but gradually seconds became minutes, minutes became hours and eventually I just threw mine away. I’m not suggesting that you do the same. I will tell you that if you do put your vibrator away and just let your body regain it’s natural sensitivity to human touch, especially with exercises like “Awakening The Female Sensual Grid”, you will be amazed how orgasmic you can become. Moreover, you might discover that your orgasms aren’t limited to your genitals, but that your entire body is multi-orgasmic.
4. Raise Sexual Energy: Rather than letting your sexual energy dissipate through orgasm, raise your sexual energy…over…and over…and over again. And it doesn’t mean spend the entire day in bed playing with yourself. Raising sexual energy can take anywhere from 5-10 minutes. Think of it is a sexual meditation. For starters, I would say practice bringing yourself to the point of orgasm and not releasing, twice a day for 3 consecutive days. On the third day, allow yourself to come and notice to what point the sensations have amplified and how much more intense your orgasms become. Be sure to follow the steps in Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy because it will teach you how to draw sexual energy into your heart and through your entire body.
5. White Tiger Tantra: Just as Michelangelo chipped away at his marble, taking away what was not necessary to find his “David”, White Tiger Tantra will peel away the layers of trapped negative emotions in our bodies, to uncover our fullest orgasmic potential. I personally don’t know of any other systems that can more rapidly take any woman who says, “I’ve never had an orgasm” and teach her how to have full body, toe-curling multiple orgasms. And, like me I discovered along the way in my training, that White Tiger Tantra brings much more to women than sexual pleasure. To me, it brought joy where there was anger. Peace where there was stress and balance to where there was disharmony. That is the healing potential of sexual energy and I think as a society with it’s diseases of the body, mind and spirit we are in an urgent need for this kind of healing. A healing that can only come when we re-train our bodies and minds to feel blissful and orgasmic once again.
Sex Without Stress
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An exciting new sex study reveals striking differences between the way men and women have sex. Brain scans show that while men rely more heavily on physical stimulation for sexual pleasure, a woman’s sexual arousal depends on…
DEEP RELAXATION AND THE LACK OF ANXIETY.
“The key to female arousal seems rather to be deep relaxation and a lack of anxiety, with direct sensory input from the genitals playing a less critical role.
The scans show that during sexual activity, the parts of the female brain responsible for processing fear, anxiety and emotion start to relax and reduce in activity. This reaches a peak at orgasm, when the female brain’s emotion centres are effectively closed down to produce an almost trance-like state.” Full article
Taoist sex practitioners believe that ANY extreme emotional states (whether you are male or female) paired with lovemaking can disrupt the flow of chi or prana. In other words, they say you should avoid sex when you or your partner are feeling angry, anxious, depressed and even joyful!
According to the Huang Ti Nei Ching (The Yellow Emperor’s Classic of Internal Medicine) ”Anger makes chi rise, joy slows it down, grief causes chi to dissipate, fear causes it to descend, surprise makes chi scatter, exhaustion makes it waste away, and thought causes it to concentrate.”
While it’s possible for men and women to enjoy sex when they do feel extremes of emotions, women in particular because they are more emotional by nature, will feel imbalanced if they were not relaxed or at ease prior to lovemaking.
Sex paired with stress and adrenaline can actually diminish a woman’s sexual response. She may still be able to have an orgasm, but her orgasm will likely be localized in her genitals only, rather than her entire body.
Full body orgasms, according to the principles of White Tiger Tantra are dependent on a woman’s total surrender and the relaxation of her body, mind and spirit. My tantric teacher always said that when a woman tries to “control” her partner, she is coming from a place of adrenaline and stress (the sympathetic nervous system).
When she lets go of control and relaxes she enters into the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for “stimulation of ‘rest-and-digest’ activities that occur when the body is at rest, including sexual arousal”. Her body then begins to release endorphins such as serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin which give her a a feeling of pleasure and euphoria.
While many studies talk about how sex can relieve stress by releasing endorphins in our bodies and increase intimacy in a relationship, it can actually have the opposite effect and prevent us from being “in the mood”.
A few words of advice…
“Be sure to warm the kettle before you do your cooking.” -Steve P, White Tiger Tantra
**If you are ready to take your lover beyond the normal sexual experiences and help her release new heights of sensual ecstasy, learn these powerful tantric sex techniques to help enhance the love and passion in your relationships. Visit http://sensualawakening.com
The Magic Of Tantric Sex
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The interplay and balance between Shiva & Shakti or the yin and the yang, which are the male and female aspects of our personalities are at the center of tantra and tantric sex practices. The lovemaking between the these two polar and complementary opposites are believed to have resulted in the birth of our universe and all it’s living things.
In tantra, the dance between negative and positive, dark and light or the attraction between male and female energy are that which generate new life. It is this blending of opposites that brings the unification of our spirit and body, leading to a state where we are no longer worried about thoughts of the future or haunted by thoughts of the past. Rather, we can live in the “now” or present moment.
To attain this state through tantra or tantric sex, requires that we learn the art of cultivating sexual energy which is typically practiced by channeling it up our spine and back down again through our breathing, while visualizing ourselves ascending through higher states of consciousness. There are many techniques to achieve the desired effect, such as I share with you in Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy.
I’ve had the good fortune to work intensely for several years with a tantric teacher who trained me in White Tiger Tantra, a unique sensual enhancement and sexually healing massage for women. During my sessions I would have some incredible visions which through time, had opened me up to astral travel, bestowed knowledge to me of my past lives and awakened psychic abilities in me, I never knew I had.
As time went on, I began to receive very special information, a wisdom that came only when I started learning to let go of “control” and enter into the state of “now” or what the Taoists refer to as the “japa”. What to do with this knowledge or wisdom is really unique to each tantric practitioner. Some people choose to cultivate sexual energy to attract things of an earthly nature, such as money, fame and success. Others draw this energy up to ascend on the spiritual plane or to discover their higher self so that it can be shared with others…or kept to themselves.
In my opinion, it really doesn’t matter what kind of tantra you practice or what you do with the energy and wisdom you acquire from it, as long as you aren’t using your magic to intentionally do harm unto others…
**If you are ready to take your lover beyond the normal sexual experiences and help her release new heights of sensual ecstasy, learn these powerful tantric sex techniques to help enhance the love and passion in your relationships. Visit http://sensualawakening.com
Sexual Energy & Relationships
Posted by: | Comments“The relationship between men and women has baffled and confused philosophers, scientists and thinkers throughout the ages. Sexuality is a dance that spans the history of all societies. It is a ritual that has preoccupied the activities of humankind throughout the aeons and still has present cultures in a quandary.
For something that existed for so long and has been a part of everyone’s life throughout history, one would think that humanity would have some expertise on the subject of sexuality. Yet to this very day, our sexual relationships continue to daze and confuse the spirit of people in profound ways. On the one hand, they create passion, love, ignite romance and pleasure and spark the flames of desire that make life worth living. But on the other hand, sexuality is also a source of destruction and negativity that are the causes of a myriad of problems in society. Sex is a creative force that moves through the body, feeding the emotions and thoughts and creating the impulse of desire. It is pleasure in its raw and unrefined states. If that energy is not understood and used in the right way, it is the cause of dissatisfaction, destruction and overall unhappiness in our lives. As the basic duality of man and woman, day and night, sexual energy can be the source of both pain and pleasure.
Sexuality is like the force of fire. When used intelligently, it enhances our lives immensely. With fire that can warm our houses, cook our food and bring light into dark rooms. But if we use fire in the wrong way, for example, putting it on the roof instead of in the fireplace, it will inevitably burn the whole house down. The fire itself is not evil or even bad, it is merely a force that needs to be directed in a positive way. The same applies with sexuality; if we use it correctly, it brings us unbelievable pleasure, but if we let this energy run wild without guidance or understanding, it has the potential to destroy our physical and emotional lives.
Not only is there an overall dissatisfaction with sex in our everyday relationships, but we are faced with the malicious acts of rape, abuse and violence. The number of problems in society that revolve around the topic of sexuality is monumental. The echoing question of how to use this energy in a positive way can be heard throughout the world.
In the tradition of Taoism, sex was seen in an altogether different context than in the West. Rather than being the great sin, sexual energy was considered a path toward health and vitality and a way to connect intimately with the divine. That divinity is seen as a state of wholeness and completeness that is implicit in all of us.
In the traditions of the East, man and woman represent opposite halves of that universal whole. Each is an earthly manifestation of the cosmic creative forces -yin and yang, feminine and masculine, Heaven and Earth -whose intermingling brings forth all phenomena. When man and woman unite in sex, Heaven and Earth are joined.”
Sexual Reflexology: Activating The Taoist Points Of Love
by: Mantak Chia and William U. Wei
Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy
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Cultivating and trans-mutating sexual energy are some of the most powerful skills a tantric practitioner will learn, along with…
Tantric Sex Technique #2: The Power Of Tantric Breathing
and creating deep connections with your partner through…
Tantric Sex Technique #1: Eye Gazing
If you’ve gone through tantric technique 1 and 2, you are now ready for the third technique which will teach you not only about the power of your sexual energy, but how to use it in a way that can literally heal your body, mind and spirit.
In our culture we tend to separate matters of sex and spirituality. Tantra teaches us that sex energy and spiritual energy are one in the same, by helping us bridge that gap between what we deem “physical” and “carnal”, as opposed to “holy” and “pure”.
To cultivate sexual energy is in essence a spiritual act which can in effect bring us closer to God or Creator, regardless of what our beliefs are. After all, God has created our magnificent bodies and has given us the power to generate sexual and sensual energy, not so that we can repress or overindulge in it, but so that we can understand how it too can be sacred in our lives.
Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy
1. First find a quiet place where you will be undisturbed. You can practice alone or with a partner, sitting or lying down.
2. Sex starts in the mind, so close your eyes and allow your sexual imagination run away with you. Allow yourself to drift down into any thoughts, sounds or images that start to stimulate your senses. Notice where in your body you can feel any changes as sensual energy begins to grow inside you.
3. Start to slowly stimulate yourself or have a partner do it. Gently sweep your arms, your breasts and your belly with the tips of your fingers, dancing across your skin, tantalizing you before moving onto the genitals. Remember, this isn’t a race to the finish line. Your goal is not to achieve orgasm, but to utilize this magical energy to heal, inspire and excite you.
4. As you find yourself growing more and more excited, continue until you reach the peak of your orgasm, but before you do…Stop. I know, it may be hard at first if you’re first learning about orgasm control whether you are male or female, but as your body gets used to it, you will discover the hidden benefits behind it.
5. At this point, simply place your tongue to the roof of your mouth and inhale deeply into your stomach, focusing on a spot 2 inches below the navel. As you exhale, focus on the crown, at the top of your head. Repeat this breath combination for a total of 4 breaths.
6. On the final exhale, slowly open your eyes and allow that energy to spread into your heart…filling your entire body to overflowing with sensual energy.
7. Repeat the process 3 times (or more if you can), keeping in mind that the energy will multiply itself the more you practice. You can also spread it out throughout the day or several days, or prior to lovemaking and orgasm.
And now…Take a tour of your body. Notice sensations and any new vibrations where there weren’t any before. Some people experience a buzzing or tingling feeling in their bodies. This is your sexual energy, prana or qi moving through you. As you continue practicing this exercise daily or even weekly, you might notice changes, such as a more youthful appearance and a lasting “after sex glow”. There may also be changes in your mood as frustration from repressed sexual energy begins to melt away, leaving you feeling happier, calmer and more open to love.
**If you are ready to take your lover beyond the normal sexual experiences and help her release new heights of sensual ecstasy, learn these powerful tantric sex techniques to help enhance the love and passion in your relationships. Visit http://sensualawakening.com
Tantric Sex Technique #2: The Power Of Tantric Breathing
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“The single most important key to sex that I’ve yet discovered is conscious rhythmic breathing; the more you breathe the more you feel and the more you come alive. Many of us breathe only enough to survive but not to live fully. Deep breathing is a door to waking up to healing and to more personal freedom.”
— Annie Sprinkle, PhD. and Tantrica
What is tantric breathing and how can it help my sex life?
You don’t have to be a tantric master, guru or yogi to understand the power of deep abdominal breathing or tantric breath in transforming a lukewarm sex life into one that’s sizzling hot…
To begin, it would be helpful to understand the biology behind breathing and it’s relationship with sex. You are probably well aware of how important breathing is a when engaging in strenuous exercise, such as weight lifting or cardiovascular activities. When we draw in oxygen through the nose, we release what’s known as nitric oxide into our system, which serves to regulate our blood pressure, ward off infections and more importantly, deliver blood to different organs.
The way sex is performed by the vast majority of people, women in particular is that they go through these peaks and valleys…the oohs and ahhs…the huffing and puffing…hyperventilating… And just as they are about to climax…Everything stops. They tense their entire body up from head to toe and STOP BREATHING and if they are lucky, they’ll have a mini-orgasm lasting a few seconds at best…
The truth is, women’s bodies were designed for full body and multiple orgasms according to tantric philosophy. But because women tend to hold off their breath and hyperventilate during sex, their bodies lack in oxygen and their orgasms tend to localized in the genital region rather than the entire body.
Just think about it. The less oxygen you have running through you during sex, the less nitric oxide is produced. The less nitric oxide is produced, the less blood flows into your genitals, decreasing engorgement (in women) and weakening erections (in men).
Here’s where tantric breath with tantric sex can help. You have to start by literally re-training your body for deep abdominal breathing and if you already naturally do, you are way ahead of the game. But because we live in such a fast-paced, high-stress society, it’s no wonder the vast majority of adults have become shallow breathers. The reality is that we weren’t born that way. Just look at babies and you will see that they naturally breathe in their lower abdomen.
Deep abdominal breathing is powerful and there are many techniques to do it. I like to practice a form a rhythmic breathing which entails, placing your hand over your navel, inhaling slowly and fully to the count of 4 and exhaling at the same rhythm. It sounds easier than it actually is. What most people will notice is that their breath stops short of their diaphragm. Just relax and don’t force your breath into your abdomen. As you grow more accustomed to breathing in this way, you will begin to open up channels, allowing the energy to reach your lower belly.
Another technique is to inhale deeply into your abdomen, focusing on a point 2 inches below the navel and as you exhale focus on the crown at the top of your head. You can intensify the exercise by exhaling with a loud guttural sigh. Consciously breathing in this way during sex, is especially important for women who sometimes have difficult reaching orgasm and often suffer from a variety of sexual disorders.
On a final note, once you’ve practiced these exercises so that they become second nature to you, you can then begin to incorporate them into your lovemaking to boost sexual energy between you and your lover, prolong intercourse and just bring you to new heights of sensual ecstasy…Naturally.
If you’ve missed part 1 of my tantric sex series, read Tantric Sex Technique #1: Eye Gazing, followed by Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy.
**If you are ready to take your lover beyond the normal sexual experiences and help her release new heights of sensual ecstasy, learn these powerful tantric sex techniques to help enhance the love and passion in your relationships. Visit http://sensualawakening.com
Tantric Sex Technique #1 : Eye-Gazing
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If you’re new to tantric sex and don’t really know where to begin, the following Tantric Sex Technique will add a whole new dimension to your lovemaking.
Tantric Sex Technique #1: Eye-Gazing
People need to connect intimately to have great sex. Whether you have been in a relationship for many years and feel like you’ve lost some of that intimacy you once shared or you’re in a new relationship and want to take it to the next level, eye-gazing will allow you to instantly connect heart-to-heart, soul-to-soul.
To practice Eye-Gazing or Soul-Gazing, stand and face your partner. Place your left hand over your lover’s right hand and your right over their left. Begin to breathe in synchrony with one another. On the inhale, slowly and with unconscious movement, allow your hands to gently rise…then descend as you exhale.
Softly gaze into your lover’s left eye, as he or she gazes into yours. In the Celtic tradition, it is said that the left-eye is the gateway to soul, that connect us with our “Anam Kara” or “friend of the soul”. Sometimes, when eye-gazing people may notice their partner’s face changing into that of an older or younger person. Sometimes an animal will appear. Embrace whatever you see, free of any judgment. Send unconditional love, imagining a white or pink light enveloping your lover. Many people believe that the eyes can reveal information about our past-lives. Whatever your beliefs are, enjoy this special time with your parnter as you connect…two souls into one.
You can also practice soul-gazing during sex. The best sex position to practice this tantric technique is in the Yab Yum position. This is a common tantric sex position, where couples face each other, with the woman sitting on the man’s lap. This allows for better movement of sexual energy and connects the chakras between partners.
While many people enjoy the feeling of being connected to their lover, after sex, it’s important to eventually take back your energy cords. In other words, you want to be running your energy and not someone else’s, unless of course you just want to spend the day basking in sensual ecstasy…
I like to keep my heart chakra connected to my lover throughout the day, because we can send each other energy at a distance, but for the most part, if you’re practicing an exercise as intense as soul-gazing, you will feel more like “yourself” if you take back your cords and send your partner’s their own. You can always reconnect at a later time.
So, to conclude the soul-gazing session, whether you practice it before or after sex, close your eyes and place your right hand over your heart, with your left hand on top. Inhale deeply into the stomach, focusing on a spot, 2 inches below the navel. On the exhale, focus on your crown chakra, at the top of your head.
On the fourth exhale, gently open your eyes, look at your partner and notice how the connection has changed. Thank your partner for opening up their heart and soul to you.
Continue on to…
Tantric Sex Technique #2: The Power Of Tantric Breathing
Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy
**If you are ready to take your lover beyond the normal sexual experiences and help her release new heights of sensual ecstasy, learn these powerful tantric sex techniques to help enhance the love and passion in your relationships. Visit http://sensualawakening.com
Female Sexual Arousal Reveals…
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Up until the last decade or so, studies of female sexuality and desire have remained a relatively obscure subject. And with the growing trend of female sexual disorders and dysfunctions, we are in dire need to find out, deep down…What really turns us on?
Heterosexual women…Brace yourselves!
A recent study at the Northwestern University exposed some interesting new info about female sexual arousal. Here’s what they found out:
“While gay men overwhelmingly become sexually aroused by images of men and heterosexual men by images of women, both heterosexual and lesbian women tend to become sexually aroused by both male and female erotica, and thus have a bisexual arousal pattern.”
Here are some of the differences that the researches found between male and female sexual arousal patterns…
Makes you kind of wonder who’s got it right…The BODY or the MIND?
The Benefits Of White Tiger Tantra
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As a practitioner of White Tiger Tantra, I’ve often been asked by women and couples, what are the benefits of incorporating tantra or tantric massage into their love lives.
Well, for a variety of reasons, but because there are so many different forms of tantra out there, I’ll focus on White Tiger Tantra specifically.
The Benefits Of White Tiger Tantra
1. Improves Female Sexual Health
This means that a lot of problems that woman are afflicted with due to impoverished sex lives, such as female sexual disorders, menstrual cramps, incontinence, depression and anxiety, can rapidly be resolved through regular tantric massage.
2. Releases Stress & Tension
Removing stress and tension in a woman’s body, allows for sexual energy to flow more freely. By building up sexual energy for prolonged periods of time our brain chemistry begins to change as well. We start to produce more endorphins, serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin. These are the chemicals that are known as “The cocktail of love”, which can literally wash away symptoms of depression, PMS and anxiety.
3. Leads To Full Body Orgasms
As the majority of women have localized genital orgasms, sexual energy remains trapped in the lower chakras, which can feel very unsatisfying on many levels. White Tiger Tantra massage techniques are powerful in helping pierce through the chakras, drawing energy up to the heart and through the higher energy centers, leading to full body orgasms and female ejaculation.
4. Rejuvenates The Body
Tantra can have an awesomely rejuvenating effect on the body, mind and spirit. As depression is wiped away, it can take years off the of the face and bring back mental clarity.My experience with White Tiger Tantra, has proven that it is THE fountain of youth. The emotions that we carry around for years become etched in our faces as we grow older…gravity isn’t the only player. For example, people who are cruel and often speak ill of others have lips that go thin over time. Frown lines inevitably develop on the faces of those who have held onto a lot of anger over the years. Releasing the trapped emotions in the body through tantric massage then becomes much like peeling the skins of an onion…revealing one’s shiny and bright core.
5. Improves Intimacy
Great sex is important to sustaining intimate connections and we naturally want to be around people who can help amplify positive states in us. When practicing with a partner, White Tiger Tantra can awaken and amplify a woman’s sensuality and sexuality very powerfully…opening her up to becoming more receptive to giving and receiving love.
For those of you who are thinking about integrating tantra into your love lives, I hope this brief article about the benefits of White Tiger Tantra was somewhat helpful and informative.
Much Love,
Women Awakened
