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Learn To Love Yourself
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“Love begins at home, with loving yourself.” -Margo Anand
Loving yourself, doesn’t mean indulging yourself in frequent solitary sexual activity or other indulgences. It means to learn to trust yourself and listen to your inner self. To trust your inner guidance that is your heart. After all, if you don’t trust the messages from your heart, then how can you trust the heart of another?
Love from another won’t make you feel whole if you feel empty inside. You will just find reasons why the person who offers you their heart, is lying or trying to deceive you. If you haven’t learned to receive love from your higher source and instead depend on others, you end up feeling possessive and jealous.
One way to open your heart to higher love that I discovered was through the magic of tantric sex. I’m a white tiger tantra practitioner and through years of practice, I have learned to cultivate and direct the subtle energy that is within me to heal my mind body and spirit. Had I not learned white tiger tantra, I would have maybe been intellectually aware of these forces within and without, but never would have I been able to feel them, nor learn to love fully.
I often say that young children naturally love themselves. They are uninhibited, guilt-free and fully accepting of who they are. It is only as they grow older that they start to develop a “personality” based on the approval or disapproval of those around them. Most people continue through life, layering on the thick, protective shield that is their ego, until they develop dis-ease of the body and mind, inevitably resulting in their death. Having forgotten how to experience bliss, the quality of their lives is greatly compromised.
As Jesus said, “Allow little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.” This powerful verse has a deep meaning for me as it symbolizes our spiritual growth as adults, in which we shed our “personalities” and ego, becoming free and spontaneous like children. That is our spiritual path and the path to our highest love.
But how do you find this spontaneity? How do you become free and learn to love? There are several ways and many techniques that I share on this about meditation, cultivating sexual energy and white tiger tantra, all of which can help you develop a greater love for yourself and others.
You may wonder, how can meditation teach me to love myself? It does so by providing clarity of mind, which can help you process your thoughts and perceptions that prevent you from experiencing your sensual self fully. As your mind begins to settle, you begin to attune to your feelings and expand your ability to experience pleasure and love.
As the mind settles, through meditation or trance, you can begin to implement tantric techniques that can further help you learn to love yourself. If you have forgotten how to love yourself or have consciously shut down your heart because of heartache, then you are denying yourself the divine right to experience a higher quality of life. Tantra can help release those resistances from your heart and open you up to loving yourself and others, more deeply and more courageously than ever before.
Healing Genital Armoring With White Tiger Tantra
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Sometimes, I will look at people and notice a deep sexual frustration in them, especially in women. There is a lack of sensuality, fluidity and flow in their movements. Their eyes are often dim and distant. They have an “impenetrable” aura around them, as if it has been put there to ward off emotional intruders. All of these are signals to me that this person isn’t reaching their fullest orgasmic potential. It’s what Wilhelm Reich referred to as “Body Armoring” or “genital armoring”.
According to Steve P. of White Tiger Tantra, genital armoring is caused by past traumatic and highly emotionally charged experiences becoming lodged inside the body’s tissues. Our bodies, the muscles, the cells and organs are like data collectors, which store information.The kind of information we store and how we process that information will determine the quality of our physical, emotional, spiritual and sexual health.
In “The Art Of Sexual Ecstasy” by Margo Anand, “The male and female sex organs are as prone to armoring as the rest of the body and can function at a reduced level of sensitivity. In fact because the sexual organs have been subjected to vigorous condemnation from childhood onward, the genital area has become a major storehouse of negative imprints, greatly reducing our capacity for sexual pleasure and preventing full enjoyment of orgasmic release.”
Most women aren’t even aware that they have genital armoring, because they do have orgasms occasionally (some more than others). I considered myself blessed that compared to many of my anorgasmic friends, I could at least have clitoral orgasms. But something always felt like it was missing. I felt incomplete, empty and often unsatisfied after sex and I didn’t know why.
After being initiated into white tiger tantra, I discovered that my ability to have full body orgasms and experience bliss depends on releasing the resistance that disallows orgasms from naturally flowing through.
For those of you who don’t know, White Tiger Tantra is a massage system that uses accupressure points to help release the tension in the muscles and tissues, that block the free flow of sexual energy. In other words, White Tiger Tantra heals genital armoring. The massage can sometimes get uncomfortable, depending on how much tension and resistance you have built up towards sex. This could be caused by a number of things…
- Guilty masturbation
- Forceful male fingering
- Sexual intercourse without sufficient foreplay
- Rape and molestation
- Failing to reach orgasm
- Abortions
- Hysterectomy
- Etc.
Although genital armoring limits the ability to experience sexual/sensual pleasure in both men and women, it can be healed through full body massage and massage of the genital area. With White Tiger Tantra, a lot of women go through pretty intense cathartic experiences when they are releasing their “genital armor” so it’s really important to practice with someone they really love and trust. Their partner may have to hold them and let them cry or release whatever emotions surface. It sounds a bit dramatic, but it’s truly one of the most liberating feelings in the world when you can let go of your emotional baggage in a big way..A small price to pay when the rewards are powerful full body orgasms and sensual bliss.
How To Have Multiple Orgasms In Multiple Ways…
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Steve P, master of White Tiger Tantra offers a different and unique perspective on the female orgasm. He believes that ALL women, without exception are born with the ability to have multiple orgasms. The problem is, they never learned how to.
So let me reveal some secrets to you that I learned from my White Tiger Tantra trainer on…
How To Have Multiple Orgasms:
1. Trust: If you know about the mind-body connection then you are probably already aware that what you think translates into a physical response. When you think about a memorable lovemaking experience, did it not leave an imprint in your body so that just the mere thought of it stirs up those ecstatic feelings in you once again? Did that experience leave you with the belief that your body has the ability to feel pleasure and bliss? Most likely it did. But suppose you don’t have the experience of having multiple orgasms. In fact, you don’t know anybody who ever has. So, then does it come down to “I have to see it/feel it to believe it”? Not really, but to have multiple orgasms, you have to be open and trusting enough of yourself to allow the new experience to come through.
2. Orgasm Control: You would think that having multiple orgasms, means more orgasms right? Not quite so. It’s quite the reverse really. When you masturbate and let yourself come, you are releasing the hormone prolactin, which is what makes us roll over and fall asleep after sex. It’s what makes us want to vegetate on the couch with munchies and movies on a Friday night, rather than mingle and go out to meet people. Also, you’ll hear a lot of tantric practitioners talk about developing sexual control because it’s believed that when you have an orgasm, sexual energy is lost or dissipated. This doesn’t mean abstaining from sex. On the contrary, it means, have sex or masturbate, but raise your sexual energy by cycling it through your entire body, rather than seeking instant gratification through orgasms.
3. Be Vibrator Free: One of the problems with our modern society, is that our constant need for stimulation causes us to gradually grow numb to it. Then we need more and more stimulation in order for it to have any effect. So if you’re a woman who is used to using vibrators, you might notice that the longer you use them, the longer it takes you to reach orgasm. I was one of them. At first, they were great. They could get me off in seconds, but gradually seconds became minutes, minutes became hours and eventually I just threw mine away. I’m not suggesting that you do the same. I will tell you that if you do put your vibrator away and just let your body regain it’s natural sensitivity to human touch, especially with exercises like “Awakening The Female Sensual Grid”, you will be amazed how orgasmic you can become. Moreover, you might discover that your orgasms aren’t limited to your genitals, but that your entire body is multi-orgasmic.
4. Raise Sexual Energy: Rather than letting your sexual energy dissipate through orgasm, raise your sexual energy…over…and over…and over again. And it doesn’t mean spend the entire day in bed playing with yourself. Raising sexual energy can take anywhere from 5-10 minutes. Think of it is a sexual meditation. For starters, I would say practice bringing yourself to the point of orgasm and not releasing, twice a day for 3 consecutive days. On the third day, allow yourself to come and notice to what point the sensations have amplified and how much more intense your orgasms become. Be sure to follow the steps in Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy because it will teach you how to draw sexual energy into your heart and through your entire body.
5. White Tiger Tantra: Just as Michelangelo chipped away at his marble, taking away what was not necessary to find his “David”, White Tiger Tantra will peel away the layers of trapped negative emotions in our bodies, to uncover our fullest orgasmic potential. I personally don’t know of any other systems that can more rapidly take any woman who says, “I’ve never had an orgasm” and teach her how to have full body, toe-curling multiple orgasms. And, like me I discovered along the way in my training, that White Tiger Tantra brings much more to women than sexual pleasure. To me, it brought joy where there was anger. Peace where there was stress and balance to where there was disharmony. That is the healing potential of sexual energy and I think as a society with it’s diseases of the body, mind and spirit we are in an urgent need for this kind of healing. A healing that can only come when we re-train our bodies and minds to feel blissful and orgasmic once again.
The Magic Of Tantric Sex
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The interplay and balance between Shiva & Shakti or the yin and the yang, which are the male and female aspects of our personalities are at the center of tantra and tantric sex practices. The lovemaking between the these two polar and complementary opposites are believed to have resulted in the birth of our universe and all it’s living things.
In tantra, the dance between negative and positive, dark and light or the attraction between male and female energy are that which generate new life. It is this blending of opposites that brings the unification of our spirit and body, leading to a state where we are no longer worried about thoughts of the future or haunted by thoughts of the past. Rather, we can live in the “now” or present moment.
To attain this state through tantra or tantric sex, requires that we learn the art of cultivating sexual energy which is typically practiced by channeling it up our spine and back down again through our breathing, while visualizing ourselves ascending through higher states of consciousness. There are many techniques to achieve the desired effect, such as I share with you in Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy.
I’ve had the good fortune to work intensely for several years with a tantric teacher who trained me in White Tiger Tantra, a unique sensual enhancement and sexually healing massage for women. During my sessions I would have some incredible visions which through time, had opened me up to astral travel, bestowed knowledge to me of my past lives and awakened psychic abilities in me, I never knew I had.
As time went on, I began to receive very special information, a wisdom that came only when I started learning to let go of “control” and enter into the state of “now” or what the Taoists refer to as the “japa”. What to do with this knowledge or wisdom is really unique to each tantric practitioner. Some people choose to cultivate sexual energy to attract things of an earthly nature, such as money, fame and success. Others draw this energy up to ascend on the spiritual plane or to discover their higher self so that it can be shared with others…or kept to themselves.
In my opinion, it really doesn’t matter what kind of tantra you practice or what you do with the energy and wisdom you acquire from it, as long as you aren’t using your magic to intentionally do harm unto others…
**If you are ready to take your lover beyond the normal sexual experiences and help her release new heights of sensual ecstasy, learn these powerful tantric sex techniques to help enhance the love and passion in your relationships. Visit http://sensualawakening.com
Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy
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Cultivating and trans-mutating sexual energy are some of the most powerful skills a tantric practitioner will learn, along with…
Tantric Sex Technique #2: The Power Of Tantric Breathing
and creating deep connections with your partner through…
Tantric Sex Technique #1: Eye Gazing
If you’ve gone through tantric technique 1 and 2, you are now ready for the third technique which will teach you not only about the power of your sexual energy, but how to use it in a way that can literally heal your body, mind and spirit.
In our culture we tend to separate matters of sex and spirituality. Tantra teaches us that sex energy and spiritual energy are one in the same, by helping us bridge that gap between what we deem “physical” and “carnal”, as opposed to “holy” and “pure”.
To cultivate sexual energy is in essence a spiritual act which can in effect bring us closer to God or Creator, regardless of what our beliefs are. After all, God has created our magnificent bodies and has given us the power to generate sexual and sensual energy, not so that we can repress or overindulge in it, but so that we can understand how it too can be sacred in our lives.
Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy
1. First find a quiet place where you will be undisturbed. You can practice alone or with a partner, sitting or lying down.
2. Sex starts in the mind, so close your eyes and allow your sexual imagination run away with you. Allow yourself to drift down into any thoughts, sounds or images that start to stimulate your senses. Notice where in your body you can feel any changes as sensual energy begins to grow inside you.
3. Start to slowly stimulate yourself or have a partner do it. Gently sweep your arms, your breasts and your belly with the tips of your fingers, dancing across your skin, tantalizing you before moving onto the genitals. Remember, this isn’t a race to the finish line. Your goal is not to achieve orgasm, but to utilize this magical energy to heal, inspire and excite you.
4. As you find yourself growing more and more excited, continue until you reach the peak of your orgasm, but before you do…Stop. I know, it may be hard at first if you’re first learning about orgasm control whether you are male or female, but as your body gets used to it, you will discover the hidden benefits behind it.
5. At this point, simply place your tongue to the roof of your mouth and inhale deeply into your stomach, focusing on a spot 2 inches below the navel. As you exhale, focus on the crown, at the top of your head. Repeat this breath combination for a total of 4 breaths.
6. On the final exhale, slowly open your eyes and allow that energy to spread into your heart…filling your entire body to overflowing with sensual energy.
7. Repeat the process 3 times (or more if you can), keeping in mind that the energy will multiply itself the more you practice. You can also spread it out throughout the day or several days, or prior to lovemaking and orgasm.
And now…Take a tour of your body. Notice sensations and any new vibrations where there weren’t any before. Some people experience a buzzing or tingling feeling in their bodies. This is your sexual energy, prana or qi moving through you. As you continue practicing this exercise daily or even weekly, you might notice changes, such as a more youthful appearance and a lasting “after sex glow”. There may also be changes in your mood as frustration from repressed sexual energy begins to melt away, leaving you feeling happier, calmer and more open to love.
**If you are ready to take your lover beyond the normal sexual experiences and help her release new heights of sensual ecstasy, learn these powerful tantric sex techniques to help enhance the love and passion in your relationships. Visit http://sensualawakening.com
Tantric Sex Technique #2: The Power Of Tantric Breathing
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“The single most important key to sex that I’ve yet discovered is conscious rhythmic breathing; the more you breathe the more you feel and the more you come alive. Many of us breathe only enough to survive but not to live fully. Deep breathing is a door to waking up to healing and to more personal freedom.”
— Annie Sprinkle, PhD. and Tantrica
What is tantric breathing and how can it help my sex life?
You don’t have to be a tantric master, guru or yogi to understand the power of deep abdominal breathing or tantric breath in transforming a lukewarm sex life into one that’s sizzling hot…
To begin, it would be helpful to understand the biology behind breathing and it’s relationship with sex. You are probably well aware of how important breathing is a when engaging in strenuous exercise, such as weight lifting or cardiovascular activities. When we draw in oxygen through the nose, we release what’s known as nitric oxide into our system, which serves to regulate our blood pressure, ward off infections and more importantly, deliver blood to different organs.
The way sex is performed by the vast majority of people, women in particular is that they go through these peaks and valleys…the oohs and ahhs…the huffing and puffing…hyperventilating… And just as they are about to climax…Everything stops. They tense their entire body up from head to toe and STOP BREATHING and if they are lucky, they’ll have a mini-orgasm lasting a few seconds at best…
The truth is, women’s bodies were designed for full body and multiple orgasms according to tantric philosophy. But because women tend to hold off their breath and hyperventilate during sex, their bodies lack in oxygen and their orgasms tend to localized in the genital region rather than the entire body.
Just think about it. The less oxygen you have running through you during sex, the less nitric oxide is produced. The less nitric oxide is produced, the less blood flows into your genitals, decreasing engorgement (in women) and weakening erections (in men).
Here’s where tantric breath with tantric sex can help. You have to start by literally re-training your body for deep abdominal breathing and if you already naturally do, you are way ahead of the game. But because we live in such a fast-paced, high-stress society, it’s no wonder the vast majority of adults have become shallow breathers. The reality is that we weren’t born that way. Just look at babies and you will see that they naturally breathe in their lower abdomen.
Deep abdominal breathing is powerful and there are many techniques to do it. I like to practice a form a rhythmic breathing which entails, placing your hand over your navel, inhaling slowly and fully to the count of 4 and exhaling at the same rhythm. It sounds easier than it actually is. What most people will notice is that their breath stops short of their diaphragm. Just relax and don’t force your breath into your abdomen. As you grow more accustomed to breathing in this way, you will begin to open up channels, allowing the energy to reach your lower belly.
Another technique is to inhale deeply into your abdomen, focusing on a point 2 inches below the navel and as you exhale focus on the crown at the top of your head. You can intensify the exercise by exhaling with a loud guttural sigh. Consciously breathing in this way during sex, is especially important for women who sometimes have difficult reaching orgasm and often suffer from a variety of sexual disorders.
On a final note, once you’ve practiced these exercises so that they become second nature to you, you can then begin to incorporate them into your lovemaking to boost sexual energy between you and your lover, prolong intercourse and just bring you to new heights of sensual ecstasy…Naturally.
If you’ve missed part 1 of my tantric sex series, read Tantric Sex Technique #1: Eye Gazing, followed by Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy.
**If you are ready to take your lover beyond the normal sexual experiences and help her release new heights of sensual ecstasy, learn these powerful tantric sex techniques to help enhance the love and passion in your relationships. Visit http://sensualawakening.com
Tantric Sex Technique #1 : Eye-Gazing
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If you’re new to tantric sex and don’t really know where to begin, the following Tantric Sex Technique will add a whole new dimension to your lovemaking.
Tantric Sex Technique #1: Eye-Gazing
People need to connect intimately to have great sex. Whether you have been in a relationship for many years and feel like you’ve lost some of that intimacy you once shared or you’re in a new relationship and want to take it to the next level, eye-gazing will allow you to instantly connect heart-to-heart, soul-to-soul.
To practice Eye-Gazing or Soul-Gazing, stand and face your partner. Place your left hand over your lover’s right hand and your right over their left. Begin to breathe in synchrony with one another. On the inhale, slowly and with unconscious movement, allow your hands to gently rise…then descend as you exhale.
Softly gaze into your lover’s left eye, as he or she gazes into yours. In the Celtic tradition, it is said that the left-eye is the gateway to soul, that connect us with our “Anam Kara” or “friend of the soul”. Sometimes, when eye-gazing people may notice their partner’s face changing into that of an older or younger person. Sometimes an animal will appear. Embrace whatever you see, free of any judgment. Send unconditional love, imagining a white or pink light enveloping your lover. Many people believe that the eyes can reveal information about our past-lives. Whatever your beliefs are, enjoy this special time with your parnter as you connect…two souls into one.
You can also practice soul-gazing during sex. The best sex position to practice this tantric technique is in the Yab Yum position. This is a common tantric sex position, where couples face each other, with the woman sitting on the man’s lap. This allows for better movement of sexual energy and connects the chakras between partners.
While many people enjoy the feeling of being connected to their lover, after sex, it’s important to eventually take back your energy cords. In other words, you want to be running your energy and not someone else’s, unless of course you just want to spend the day basking in sensual ecstasy…
I like to keep my heart chakra connected to my lover throughout the day, because we can send each other energy at a distance, but for the most part, if you’re practicing an exercise as intense as soul-gazing, you will feel more like “yourself” if you take back your cords and send your partner’s their own. You can always reconnect at a later time.
So, to conclude the soul-gazing session, whether you practice it before or after sex, close your eyes and place your right hand over your heart, with your left hand on top. Inhale deeply into the stomach, focusing on a spot, 2 inches below the navel. On the exhale, focus on your crown chakra, at the top of your head.
On the fourth exhale, gently open your eyes, look at your partner and notice how the connection has changed. Thank your partner for opening up their heart and soul to you.
Continue on to…
Tantric Sex Technique #2: The Power Of Tantric Breathing
Tantric Sex Technique #3: Cultivating Sexual Energy
**If you are ready to take your lover beyond the normal sexual experiences and help her release new heights of sensual ecstasy, learn these powerful tantric sex techniques to help enhance the love and passion in your relationships. Visit http://sensualawakening.com
Tantric Soul-Gazing (A Recap)
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In response to the post “Tantra Soul-Gazing: Creating Instant Intimate Connections“, Anonymous wrote:
“I had an experience soul gazing with a younger man, but it was not intentionally. When he gazed in my eyes and I gazed back, I saw a reflecting light and electricity that made me afraid, so I removed immediately my eye contact with him. Since I haven’t ever experienced it or heard about it, I researched and I found this tantra eye gazing.
I just want to ask, why is it there is a light? what is happening? Did he also see the light when we gazed in each others eyes? just curious. “
-Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
The soul-gazing experience can often take people on a journey that moves them beyond their normal everyday perceptions. What we perceive varies from one individual to the next, so a number of different things can happen. Some participants notice color changes or their partner’s face beings to morph into that of an older or younger individual. People who aren’t normally clairvoyant may begin to open up to greater perceptual abilities. At times, soul-gazing can provide us with valuable information about past or present lives. At other times, it allows us to perceive the colors of the aura, which is manifested as a colorful or colorless sphere of light surrounding the body. This might explain the light that you saw emitted from this young man. Some auras shine brighter than others, which is why we can be immediately attracted to one person, like a moth to a flame or completely repelled by another.
The Celts believed that the eyes are the “windows of the soul” which connects us to our “Anam Cara”, meaning, “friend of the soul.” However, in many cultures it is considered rude to look directly in someone’s eyes, let alone hold a lingering gaze. For now, setting aside cultural influence, what you need to understand is that soul-gazing or eye-gazing establishes a deep energetic connection with another human being, temporarily dissolving our illusion of separateness. It bypasses our intellect and the ego personality, exposing the true nature of our being, which is why some people feel a little bit vulnerable at first. However, once they let go of trying to control the feeling and surrender to the moment,soul-gazing can open you up to experiencing the most loving and profound spiritual connections, that take us far beyond mundane life. It is through this union that we can begin to understand the sacredness and interconnectedness of all things in this universe.
Every soul-gazing experience is individual and shared at the same time. Some people say that what we perceive is just a projection of our own psyche onto another person. Whether it is or isn’t, the question is, was your life enhanced in some way from this experience? You ask if this young man also saw this light…It just depends on whether he wanted to see it.
I hope this has answered your question and thank you for sharing in your experience.
Women Awakened
P.S. To my readers, if you have had similar experiences, please share them too!
White Tiger Tantra: The Sacred Release Point
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Dear Readers and White Tiger Tantra Enthusiasts,
Here’s something I wrote a couple of months ago after my White Tiger Tantra session with Steve P. I hadn’t gotten around to posting it till now. So for those of you who are interested in what my experience was like with the White Tiger Tantra master himself, please read on…
Words cannot describe the sense of euphoria cascading through my body and mind, still at this time. It is the most natural high in the world, which every woman should be able to experience to understand the magnificence of her body and its ability to generate incredible pleasure in her life.
I had a couple of reasons I felt I needed to go through the White Tiger Tantra session, with Steve P. For about a year i had been experiencing some unusual discomfort during intercourse. Certain sexual positions would cause some intense discomfort in my pelvis and legs and I couldn’t figure out if there was something physically wrong with me. My doctor just said I had a mild case of “Vaginismus”, which he said could produce discomfort, burning or pain during penetration.Being that I’m not really into labeling myself, I figured there was some deep seated emotional stuff i needed to release. Steve P began working on releasing what was causing the spasms and painful trigger points on the muscles inside my vagina. It’s what he calls the Sacred Release Point, which opens up the “5-Gates of Nirvana.” Here’s the thing. It was by far, not one of the most comfortable massages I’ve had, but once I relaxed into it I began to feel a powerful electricity rising up my spine. I don’t know if it was Kundalini energy rising, what I do know is that once I opened up and surrendered to it, my pain transformed into an intense pleasure.
It was a truly cathartic experience for me and it took many teargasms (tears + orgasms) to get to this level. I know that might freak some women out a bit, but it has been worth going through them to get to the level where I can freely release full body orgasms. Reaching this level of sensuality and intimacy makes it easy to surrender, in a sense, like being a girl again, with all the excitement, wonder and anticipation of what might come next…
White Tiger Tantra Bliss…
Posted by: | CommentsI’m getting ready for a session of White Tiger Tantra in a few weeks and THIS is exactly what I hope it will FEEL like for me…I cannot wait!
I’ll keep you posted 
