“Every child is born sensitive. Utterly sensitive. ” -Osho

For a highly sensitive person (HSP), a party or crowded places can sometimes be draining and exhausting. HSP’s are so  hyper in tune with their surroundings that noisy social environments often lead to a sensory overload.

Because I have a keen sensitivity to energies, moods and intentions my body is like a radar and when talking with certain people, I can quickly fall out of balance energetically. At parties, I pick up on a lot of unexpressed sexual energy floating around. Alcohol and drugs seems to temporarily help people unleash the shields surrounding their lower chakras, making parties a breeding ground for attracting strictly primal sexual energy, even if it’s only happening on the ether plane.

For a lot of people sex is only a means to relieve tension and selfishly indulge their senses.To me, sex energy is spiritual and sacred in its ability to heal and inspire creativity. That is why I believe it needs to practiced consciously and with a purity of mind and heart. Sex has been a taboo subject for centuries and a lot of people feel very guilty and ashamed of their own sexual urges. At parties, alcohol is used as means to release this repressed energy free of inhibitions. Not that there is anything wrong with that. I just don’t want to be in the way when it happens.

People often hide their underlying sexual motives. Someone could be talking about the weather, but the dense tugging at my second chakra (sex chakra) inevitably gives them away. And you can either put up with it or politely excuse yourself while you quietly slip out the backdoor.

The reality is, we are all born hyper sensitive, but this sensitivity seems to “disappear” as they get older. We are taught that we need to be “thick-skinned” to face the trials and tribulations of life. But what that translates as is “close your heart” and follow the illusion of security that your mind creates. This is the mistake many people make and it will take a lot of shedding of unhealthy ideas, beliefs and concepts of the mind, to bring us back to the core of our being. The heart.

So why would you want to live with your heart, if that means you will become a highly sensitive person? After all, there’s a saying “ignorance is bliss” and what you don’t know, won’t hurt you right? Wrong. Ignorance is danger. It keeps you asleep and you will navigate the world blindly, entering into situations and associating with people who have hidden agendas and selfish motives. If you are highly sensitive, then you will know within the first few seconds of meeting a person, whether you are wise to associate with them. Your body will signal to you when something is off. There will never be a doubt in your mind whether your neighbor is genuinely a “quiet and polite man” or if he is a sick and demented individual, behind closed doors.

As a highly sensitive person, I’ve spent years trying to better discern what my emotions are telling me. After all, there is usually a reason why I still feel inexplicably ill around certain people and vibrant around others. Learning self-hypnosis and other forms of meditation has increased my sensitivity and has helped me learn to better decipher the unconscious messages I’m receiving from the world around me. But that also means, I have to be more vigilant about guarding my energy from certain places and people who drain me. I do this through chakra cleansing and shielding.

People used to tell me, “Stop being so sensitive”, as if sensitivity was a bad thing or something you could just stop being. And for the longest time I believed them, but it lead me down the path of popping prescriptions pills to help me not only numb out my senses, but to better tolerate, what today I consider to be intolerable behaviors.