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Tantric Sex Technique #1: Eye-Gazing
People need to connect intimately to have great sex. Whether you have been in a relationship for many years and feel like you’ve lost some of that intimacy you once shared or you’re in a new relationship and want to take it to the next level, eye-gazing will allow you to instantly connect heart-to-heart, soul-to-soul.
To practice Eye-Gazing or Soul-Gazing, stand and face your partner. Place your left hand over your lover’s right hand and your right over their left. Begin to breathe in synchrony with one another. On the inhale, slowly and with unconscious movement, allow your hands to gently rise…then descend as you exhale.
Softly gaze into your lover’s left eye, as he or she gazes into yours. In the Celtic tradition, it is said that the left-eye is the gateway to soul, that connect us with our “Anam Kara” or “friend of the soul”. Sometimes, when eye-gazing people may notice their partner’s face changing into that of an older or younger person. Sometimes an animal will appear. Embrace whatever you see, free of any judgment. Send unconditional love, imagining a white or pink light enveloping your lover. Many people believe that the eyes can reveal information about our past-lives. Whatever your beliefs are, enjoy this special time with your parnter as you connect…two souls into one.
You can also practice soul-gazing during sex. The best sex position to practice this tantric technique is in the Yab Yum position. This is a common tantric sex position, where couples face each other, with the woman sitting on the man’s lap. This allows for better movement of sexual energy and connects the chakras between partners.
While many people enjoy the feeling of being connected to their lover, after sex, it’s important to eventually take back your energy cords. In other words, you want to be running your energy and not someone else’s, unless of course you just want to spend the day basking in sensual ecstasy…
I like to keep my heart chakra connected to my lover throughout the day, because we can send each other energy at a distance, but for the most part, if you’re practicing an exercise as intense as soul-gazing, you will feel more like “yourself” if you take back your cords and send your partner’s their own. You can always reconnect at a later time.
So, to conclude the soul-gazing session, whether you practice it before or after sex, close your eyes and place your right hand over your heart, with your left hand on top. Inhale deeply into the stomach, focusing on a spot, 2 inches below the navel. On the exhale, focus on your crown chakra, at the top of your head.
On the fourth exhale, gently open your eyes, look at your partner and notice how the connection has changed. Thank your partner for opening up their heart and soul to you.
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I hope someone can help me, please. There’s this man/acquaintance who one day just captured my gaze with his and he held my gaze, it was magical, I felt energy rush up and down my body. He was definitely projecting Eros because, telepathically, I got it loud and clear. I was mesmerized, it stunned me. So, now he’s always on my mind. I can feel his presence all the time. It’s a very loving, highly erotic, warm feeling (hot) and I’ve had it on me for weeks and weeks now. Okay, here are weirder things: I can feel his presence, I telepathically receive messages from him often, it’s very intense.
Problem is, I’m already in a relationship (married). No, I never felt anything even close to that with my husband, nothing. (we tried soul gazing a few times but no real change, maybe it’s subtle, really, really subtle) But, now what do I do? How do I cut the chord with the guy who did the soul gazing with me? How do I reverse soul gazing? Please help… I hope you can help me..I have already performed the usual way of cutting chords, I imagined any attachments just cut off from me. I’ve gone to an energy healer (maybe I need to go to more), I imagined (one by one, at different times) stainless steel, one way mirrors and white light surrounding me and protecting me, keeping me safe from it but no, I can still feel intense love being radiated to me from that man and so far it has surpassed any type of protection I had put up. I don’t know what else to do…
I took the liberty of posting your question on my blog for my readers, because I think there are many people who have experienced similar issues with soul-gazing or eye-gazing and may not know what to do about it.
So I was curious about some things, after reading your story. First of all, whether the man you soul-gazed with is currently part of your life? Do you see him on a regular basis? My second question is, how did you soul-gaze? It’s important to know whether or not it was just someone with whom you shared a lingering gaze or if this was someone who consciously knew what he was doing, as he was instructing you to follow in his lead. My third question, which may seem a little strange to you, but bear with me…
Do you really, I mean REALLY want to disconnect those chords?
So now you may be thinking, ‘well of course i want to disconnect the chords! I’ve been to energy healers, I tried shielding, one-way mirrors and what not, but nothing seems to help. So help!’
But, my intuition is telling me there’s another side to this story, that may be keeping your chords attached to this man…
On the one hand, just thinking of him gets you hot, turned on, stimulated and excited, like you have never been before… On the other hand, your mind begins protesting adamantly. After all, being you are a married woman and God forbid anyone other than your husband were to create such a rouse in you, right? So, what we’ve just uncovered here is a classic case of “Forbidden Fruit Syndrome”. I just made that up
Now, here’s where your husband comes in or doesn’t for that matter. So to me it looks as though you are trying to get the best of both worlds by attempting to recreate what lies in one person, in another. I know this is going to sound a bit brash, but I figure i should just tell you the truth. Your husband, does not and will NEVER command the same energy as the man you soul-gazed with. Which brings me to my next question…
Can you live with that?
I mean knowing what you now know about how you can feel with someone, can you see yourself out in the future looking at your husband as he is and still be ok with the connection you do have? Or will your mind keep wandering back to what you once had, with someone else? Don’t get me wrong. There are ways you can go about intensifying and electrifying the connection with your current partner, that doesn’t include an outsider. Check out some of my posts about White Tiger Tantra. It has helped many people, including myself, build deeper intimacy with their partner(s) and transform their sex lives from lukewarm to sizzling..something to think about.
Now, go back and think about some of the questions that I’ve asked you. They are important and may make or break those chords, so to speak. That is if you decide you want that.
In the meantime, I felt i should leave you with a little insight about soul-gazing. You may meet a lot of people claiming they can put you under their spell, binding you with a single gaze. Actually, they can and that is why you’ve got to be selective about who you let in, because some people use these powerful tools to manipulate, misuse others, or to inflate their insecure egos. That’s ok, if you’re into that. However, soul-gazing is a means to connecting with what the Celts describe as your “Anam Cara”, which means “friend of the soul”. If you’re just doing it with some random guy looking for a quick lay, chances are neither of you are doing it right. In fact, you are both opening yourselves up to all kinds of forces and psychic disturbances. Soul-gazing is meant to open up gateways to spiritual understandings about one, in the other. It isn’t so much about the erotic energy. Also, you can be sure to be safe knowing that any competent teacher will absolutely, unequivocally show you how to properly detach from your partner AFTER soul-gazing, (even if it’s with your husband), by disconnecting the chords and chakra cleansing. That way, you are running your energy and not someone else’s.
You say that you tried various methods in disconnecting the chords, but nothing has helped. You tried shielding with white light but as you say it has surpassed any type of psychic protection you put up. That is like saying, “two bees are stinging me”, then running into the house and shutting the door. You’ve got to remove the stingers before protecting yourself. And how do you remove the chords? Well, if you’re really serious about making a change, I can do nothing more for you, than direct you to someone who I absolutely trust to be one of the most powerful, skilled and effective healers I’ve ever come across. He is a Shamanic Healer and a Master Hypnotist (from San Diego, CA), who actually specializes in heart retrievals and soul-gazing. I have to warn you. He’s very busy and only works with highly motivated clients, who are committed to change. And if you’re not, he can help you find out. If this is something that might interest you, email me and I will direct you from there.
In response to the post “Tantra Soul-Gazing: Creating Instant Intimate Connections“, Anonymous wrote:
“I had an experience soul gazing with a younger man, but it was not intentionally. When he gazed in my eyes and I gazed back, I saw a reflecting light and electricity that made me afraid, so I removed immediately my eye contact with him. Since I haven’t ever experienced it or heard about it, I researched and I found this tantra eye gazing.
I just want to ask, why is it there is a light? what is happening? Did he also see the light when we gazed in each others eyes? just curious. “
The soul-gazing experience can often take people on a journey that moves them beyond their normal everyday perceptions. What we perceive varies from one individual to the next, so a number of different things can happen. Some participants notice color changes or their partner’s face beings to morph into that of an older or younger individual. People who aren’t normally clairvoyant may begin to open up to greater perceptual abilities. At times, soul-gazing can provide us with valuable information about past or present lives. At other times, it allows us to perceive the colors of the aura, which is manifested as a colorful or colorless sphere of light surrounding the body. This might explain the light that you saw emitted from this young man. Some auras shine brighter than others, which is why we can be immediately attracted to one person, like a moth to a flame or completely repelled by another.
The Celts believed that the eyes are the “windows of the soul” which connects us to our “Anam Cara”, meaning, “friend of the soul.” However, in many cultures it is considered rude to look directly in someone’s eyes, let alone hold a lingering gaze. For now, setting aside cultural influence, what you need to understand is that soul-gazing or eye-gazing establishes a deep energetic connection with another human being, temporarily dissolving our illusion of separateness. It bypasses our intellect and the ego personality, exposing the true nature of our being, which is why some people feel a little bit vulnerable at first. However, once they let go of trying to control the feeling and surrender to the moment,soul-gazing can open you up to experiencing the most loving and profound spiritual connections, that take us far beyond mundane life. It is through this union that we can begin to understand the sacredness and interconnectedness of all things in this universe.
Every soul-gazing experience is individual and shared at the same time. Some people say that what we perceive is just a projection of our own psyche onto another person. Whether it is or isn’t, the question is, was your life enhanced in some way from this experience? You ask if this young man also saw this light…It just depends on whether he wanted to see it.
I hope this has answered your question and thank you for sharing in your experience.
P.S. To my readers, if you have had similar experiences, please share them too!
Most people believe that intimacy is something that takes time to develop, but what if I told you there is a technique that will allow you to connect heart-to-heart and soul-to-soul with another, in a matter of seconds? It’s called Soul-Gazing and if you haven’t heard of this before, let me explain.
The are many Soul-Gazing rituals in tantra that allow a person to interact with another on a very deep level. It is a non-verbal form of communication which allows two people to become so deeply in tune with each other, the separation between self and the other dissolves for a moment in time.
Many people shy away from looking for a long period of time into another person’s eyes, because we may be afraid that the someone might see something in us that they don’t like. After all, our eyes reveal a lot about our hidden emotions, desires, fears etc. So if you are soul-gazing and suddenly you feel some emotions rising inside of you, just become a neutral observer of them and they will eventually pass. Getting past our fears of being exposed and vulnerable is a the first step to opening ourselves to a higher way of connecting with other human beings. I suggest you practice with someone that you have some level of trust for, until you get used to the process.
In many Celtic Traditions, it is believed that the eyes are the “gateways to the soul”, allowing us to connect with our Anam Kara or friend of the soul.
The first thing you need to do is find a partner willing to practice with you. This can literally be anyone you see fit to open yourself up to. Remember that you can just as readily disconnect after Soul-Gazing, so that you run your own energy and not someone else’s.
How To Soul-Gaze:
- Find a quiet place where you and your partner will be undisturbed. Then, stand across from your partner and place your right hand on top of his/her left hand, while your left hand should be placed underneath his/her right hand. Imagine that you are a mirror image of each other.
- Begin to pace each others’ breath and as you do this, slowly allow your connected hands to gently rise on the inhale and descend on the exhale. Continue breathing in this manner throughout the exercise.
- With your left eye, gently look into your partner’s left eye (from his/her perspective). Gaze at your partner softly and take your time, because this isn’t a staring contest. Make sure that you blink naturally.
- Use your right eye to see peripherally. This will open up your second sight (3 or 4 points of attention) and give you a greater depth of perception. You may begin to feel a sensation building within you as you connect with your partner. Simply honor it and focus your mind on filling him/her with white light or unconditional love.
- Now, test out the connection you have established. To do this, gently lean back at the same time as your partner and notice how the connection is broken. Then notice how the chords between you are reattached once you lean back in.
- To end your soul-gazing session, disconnect your hands and close your eyes. Then, place your right hand on your heart and left hand on top. As you inhale focus on your navel and as you exhale, focus on the top of your head (crown chakra), for a total of 4 breaths. As you exhale on your fourth breath, slowly open your eyes.
- Make sure you thank your partner for sharing in the experience with you.
As you soul-gaze you may notice a number of things going on. Many people first notice their partner’s face begin to morph. Sometimes a younger or older face begins to surface, which depending your beliefs might be indicative of past lives. Other times, people see colors of the aura or the face of an animal, which many indigenous cultures believe to be our animal guides.
But, regardless of your spiritual beliefs, Soul-Gazing will help you connect first with yourself, and with a partner. After all, what is intimacy about, if not about its root meaning in relating to one in another?